Preventing Breast Cancer – Changing How We Feel About Our Bodies

Having lived through breast cancer I now truly know that ‘prevention is better than a cure’, and the way forward in terms of preventing breast cancer and indeed all illness and disease has to be; changing how we feel about our bodies and embracing, acknowledging and appreciating how very precious and tender yet powerful they truly are. Honesty is the first step. Having discovered for myself the powerful medicine honesty is, I can share from my own experience with breast cancer and say without any hesitation:

I created my own illness from the choices I made on a daily basis.

A powerful statement, powerful in its honesty, and which had a powerful, remarkable impact on my treatment and recovery. By all considerations I was a healthy woman, I did lots of yoga, and did not smoke, rarely drank and was not overweight. So how did I create my own illness?

I was a master at abusing my body – and the greatest abuse to my body? …

I completely rejected my body, detested my body and was ashamed of my body. Thus I gave no thought, consideration or respect to my body in all that I did.

I took my body for granted, and when you take anything or anyone for granted, it is so easy to abuse and yet have no clue you are abusing because the behaviour of self-abuse has become your ‘normal’ on a daily basis.

In this momentum of daily abuse I was living in ignorance, ignorant to the fact that like any vehicle, the body has to have maintenance too – check-ups, stop moments, rest periods, proper nourishment, sleep (quality sleep being the real fuel for the body). As it was I attended to none of this, therefore I was always running with my battery empty… exhausted.

Being exhausted from when I awoke, I needed something to get me through my day: sugar. Sugar was my choice of drug; I was a sugar addict. With my constant rushing, pushing and driving my body to live up to the roles I had taken on – superwoman/super-mum, and Mrs Independent who doesn’t need support – along with my daily sugar rush which provided the boost I needed to push and drive my body even more… yes, I abused my body. This complete lack of self-nurturing is how I lived every day and is how and why I developed breast cancer.

I have come to this awareness after the fact of breast cancer, but what is it we as women need to change in order to prevent this in the first place?

Rejecting, Abusing, Harming And Bashing Our Bodies Is ‘what we need to change’.

It is NOT normal to intensely reject, and loathe our bodies. It is a billion, trillion, zillion times away from normal. It is the greatest downfall for every human being when we reject our body, for we also reject our wisdom and we reject the intelligence that our wise bodies can provide when we appreciate, respect and deeply nourish and care for our physical vehicle.

Taking Care Of All Others Before Ourselves Is ‘what we need to change’.

It is self-abuse, when we take care of everyone before ourselves – it is self- neglect and self-sabotage on a grand scale.

When I put myself first and took care of my own needs, putting self-care and self-nurturing into my daily practice, everything changed in my life. It is like taking a magic pill as we no longer need the coping strategies and secondly, we begin to develop a loving relationship with ourselves and our bodies, through self-nourishing and self-appreciation.

It is self-love that stops the ingrained pattern of abusing our bodies, with self-love slowly replacing self-rejection.

I had rejected being a woman completely, I had rejected my own beauty, stillness and tenderness, and in that rejection had come the dishonouring of myself as a woman… No-one to blame; I dishonoured myself.

Coming to this awareness brought a new level of honesty, slowly I was able to claim back that which I walked away from; my own divinity and grace.

We take a huge step in our evolution when we stop rejecting self; when we stop rejecting our body and the love that we were born with and all are.

I certainly did.  

Jacqueline McFadden
Jacqueline McFadden

Could it be possible that illness and disease are part of our evolution because of the ‘stop’ it brings us and the clearing it offers; the clearing of everything that holds us back from being who we truly are?

I discovered the deeper I care, cherish, nourish and love my body the more my body truly supports and communicates to me the wisdom it holds, and the more I feel from my true essence; thus, it is from this space that I have made many new choices that truly honour, respect and evolve my physicality – my body.

Listening to the wisdom of our bodies is how we navigate through all illness and disease. The body knows how to make you stop, it also knows what support it needs to recover and truly heal. So many choices become available when we come back to living from our bodies.

I did change how I feel about my body and I stopped taking my body for granted. The catalyst was breast cancer – it provided me the ‘big stop’ and rest period my exhausted body needed. I did not work for one year during my treatment, and in that year my body taught me much… my body reflected much… my body asked me to listen… and I listened.

Before breast cancer I made choices that harmed and abused my body, now I am making loving choices that truly allow access to the wisdom and intelligence my body holds and at the same time

supports the prevention of future illness and disease.

Although we may not always be able to prevent breast cancer, it is possible to reduce our risk by taking responsibility for our life. I learned that my life and my health were a reflection of all my past choices. With embracing this simple, yet powerful truth, there was no space for feeling a victim of life, there was no space to blame anyone, thus another space opened up for me, the space to surrender…

Too late for prevention, nothing left to do but ‘surrender’ to the clearing, healing and learning that was on offer, to accept what I had created, to accept that change was inevitable, to accept support and to continue to develop this new way of self-nurturing and honest living with myself.

In deep gratitude to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for all their support with my reconnection back to my body; this support with Sacred Esoteric Healing enabled me to listen and live from my body’s truth and guidance. I have also been supported by Esoteric Women’s Health to look at the bigger picture of my life and how I had been living as a woman.

by Jacqueline McFadden, BA in Computing and Human Resources; Teacher and Esoteric Healing Practitioner, The Netherlands

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601 thoughts on “Preventing Breast Cancer – Changing How We Feel About Our Bodies

  1. Nothing is nothing and everything is everything – there are no such things as random occurrences and everything happens for a reason: “Could it be possible that illness and disease are part of our evolution because of the ‘stop’ it brings us and the clearing it offers; the clearing of everything that holds us back from being who we truly are?”

  2. Women hating their body is a common theme – and yet this is so far from our natural state of being and one that we hold deep within us: “It is NOT normal to intensely reject, and loathe our bodies. It is a billion, trillion, zillion times away from normal. It is the greatest downfall for every human being when we reject our body, for we also reject our wisdom and we reject the intelligence that our wise bodies can provide when we appreciate, respect and deeply nourish and care for our physical vehicle.”

  3. Wow Jacqueline, this really does expose how we can end up abusing ourselves without even realising the abuse we are inflicting and receiving – for any moment that we take things for granted, means that in essence we have disconnected from the beauty that is there to appreciate each and every day: “I took my body for granted, and when you take anything or anyone for granted, it is so easy to abuse and yet have no clue you are abusing because the behaviour of self-abuse has become your ‘normal’ on a daily basis.”

  4. “When I put myself first and took care of my own needs, putting self-care and self-nurturing into my daily practice, everything changed in my life.” This is the key for women to restore not just their health, but reconnection to themselves and their inner true qualities. We seem to feel it’s ok to place tremendous pressure on ourselves so long as the kids, partner, family, work, pets, etc, are doing ok. I know for me I’m still learning this and appreciate the inspiration of all you have shared.

  5. ‘It is the greatest downfall for every human being when we reject our body, for we also reject our wisdom and we reject the intelligence that our wise bodies can provide when we appreciate, respect and deeply nourish and care for our physical vehicle.’ This is such a pearl of wisdom that children need to grow up knowing so that we can turn the tide on our ever increasing rates of illness and disease.

  6. “I learned that my life and my health were a reflection of all my past choices.” This realisation offers the opportunity to make different choices in the way we live.

  7. I agreeJacqueline, it is not normal to reject our body but we have made it normal by giving up on ourselves and accepting self-abuse, we even joke with friends about abuse like how doing certain things affects our body e.g hangovers, working several late nights in a row with only a few hours sleep, as if it was nothing which all builds up so that we push ourselves harder and further away from feeling our true sensitivity and how to truly care for and value our body.

  8. Our body has so much wisdom, maybe it is wise to listen to what it shares with us, ‘I discovered the deeper I care, cherish, nourish and love my body the more my body truly supports and communicates to me the wisdom it holds, and the more I feel from my true essence; thus, it is from this space that I have made many new choices that truly honour, respect and evolve my physicality – my body.’

  9. ‘I completely rejected my body, detested my body and was ashamed of my body. Thus I gave no thought, consideration or respect to my body in all that I did.’ There is such an undercurrent of self-loathing and lack of self-worth under the functional veneer many women portray as having it all in check. it is a subtext that never gets spoken about or written about and yet, as you have shared, is a silent killer on so, so many levels. In the bigger context we need to first acknowledge it, then ask ourselves how we have been blind to it and then to focus on how we can raise every single little girl to know her own preciousness and glory.

  10. It makes total sense to me that if we outright reject our bodies then we’re not going to care how much abuse we load into and onto them. Self love is a total game changer: starting with the smallest of choices, we can, over time and bit by bit, totally transform our relationship with ourselves, and others.

  11. Thank you Jacqueline, there is so much wisdom from what you have shared. “I had rejected being a woman completely, I had rejected my own beauty, stillness and tenderness, and in that rejection had come the dishonouring of myself as a woman… ” I can relate to this very much growing up in an era where men were considered superior and women were lesser, relegated to roles and duties with no real consideration for their true value just for being themselves. As a child I became a tomboy idealising men and toughness not realising the damage I was doing by placing a false persona on top of the true person I was, a little girl who was wise, delicate, sensitive, sweet and grace-full. Having the chance to come back to myself to the true essence I was born as, and to now live this as a woman is a gift, and the foundation for that is in how I treat myself. Thank you for all the support you have provided in your blog by outlining your way back to you.

  12. In being willing to stop the momentum of self-harm and abuse by turning inward and choosing to consistently hold ourselves with a quality of tenderness and love first it is possible to provide ourselves with the nurturing and nourishment that is needed to truly support our whole being.

  13. When we give more significance and focus to outside of us we start to disregard and reject our body, no longer appreciating or honouring our true worth and innate delicateness which leads to dis-ease and eventual illness in order for our body to clear what does not belong and is impeding us to otherwise be and express from the innate love we are.

    1. So much of life is about focusing on what’s outside of us, how much we achieve, what a great wife, mother, sister, worker, etc, we are, it’s no wonder so many of us take our bodies for granted, they aren’t factored into the systems we are born into (like education) in terms of placing value on our body and caring for it via what it’s communicating. If anything we value how the body looks, but not necessarily the deep care and nurturing that it truly requires.

  14. This is so common in society today, that we give no respect or honouring to our bodies, and then we wonder why they break down further down the line, ‘I took my body for granted, and when you take anything or anyone for granted, it is so easy to abuse and yet have no clue you are abusing because the behaviour of self-abuse has become your ‘normal’ on a daily basis.’

  15. This really changes what is important in life, often we make work, projects, family and everything more important than our own bodies! It is like we don’t think of it at all aside from mechanical care like showering, brushing teeth, eating and exercising but often these also are done with drive, push or disregard. It is revelatory to see our bodies as important and as something we have to not just take care of but also nurture and love! It is the way forward for us all.

  16. “I created my own illness from the choices I made on a daily basis.” We have to wake up to the fact that we need to take responsibility for our own health.

  17. You write: “I created my own illness from the choices I made on a daily basis” – this is such a liberating and empowering statement that applies to all of us, not only for our ills but our wells too in that we are responsible for our lives.

  18. I love the authority in which Jacqueline states ‘I created my own illness from the choices I made on a daily basis.’ When we claim that which is true and that which is not we begin the processing of healing. If we truly want to heal illness and disease in our body we have to learn to be honest every step of the way.

  19. Reading this tonight is very deeply healing, for the article provides a space that no matter where you are at with how you care and nurture your own body, there is always more attention that can be given to the movements we make as we nurture. We can constantly embrace more that we are made in the same light as God and so move what we come to know God’s light to be, this for me becomes more tangible, real and more prescious each day. So each day I am offered a new platform from which to nurture myself, if I am willing to be aware of it.

  20. How true this is – the more that we take care of and deeply nurture our bodies, the more aware, clear and energised we feel. It’s like that deep level of self-care opens us up to receive more love, more awareness and more knowing – the wisdom of ‘just knowing’ something through what we can feel is true.

  21. It makes sense that the way we abuse our body and make choices that are disregarding adds to our dis-ease and eventual illness. There is much we can learn about ourselves when we are inspired to honestly look at the way we are living and the choices we are making and learn to listen to what our body is communicating. In changing our approach to how we look at illness and disease it opens up our awareness to begin to lovingly respect, appreciate and value our body far more.

  22. It is not always so easy to be honest about the impact of daily choices. I find my body can speak very clearly about what is happening to it, but these messages are easy to override with other agendas running the day. Letting go of these alterer motives can be challenging, especially when this all you know, but I get the sense that it is worth it, because there is a great beauty waiting for each woman who ventures to discover what lies beyond all the doing and achieving and comes to rest in her body of exquisite stillness.

  23. I look at your picture now and see a stunning, embodied woman, with no apology. I realise it is not what often comes across in pictures and therefore what is captured in your picture has stayed with me. Thank you.

    1. Lucy this is a great point – so many of us forget to stand with ‘no apology’ and instead stand in celebration of who we are…this is something I know I can remind myself of time and time again, despite knowing that there is no need for any apology of anykind and only celebrations to enjoy!

  24. Thanks Jacqueline.. I always find it so inspiring to keep coming back to and reading your blog because I keep not listening to and overriding my body, and your blog reminds me that there are consequences of consistently making that choice to not listen. Sometimes I wonder why it feels as though my body has nothing to communicate to me, but having read this today I can see that I’m not caring, nurturing, listening to myself nearly as much as I could do, or that my body is patiently asking me to.

  25. ” I created my own illness from the choices I made on a daily basis. ”
    Wow this is a powerful statement and how true it is, illness comes from our ill choices.

  26. “I took my body for granted” When we disregard our body, our body has a way of making us wake up and pay attention.

  27. Such a powerful article Jacqueline on your journey with breast cancer and the deep awareness and healing that you went through. Thank you for sharing your wisdom here as you have much to offer other women who may be dealing with cancer or a medical condition of some sort, that there is a different way to approach illness or disease that can allow the body to truly heal.

  28. So much you have shared here and one thing that I really felt was – ‘It is the greatest downfall for every human being when we reject our body, for we also reject our wisdom and we reject the intelligence that our wise bodies can provide when we appreciate, respect and deeply nourish and care for our physical vehicle.’ – When we get to a point of returning to what we have deeply known our whole lives but just followed suit with what was around us, then our bodies naturally start to vibrate at a higher level. Honouring and rejoicing how very precious and special we are is one I keep deepening and working with and it feels amazing.

  29. It feels deeply arrogant that we are often willing to get any physical ill in our body healed but when it comes to healing the deeper emotional issues which our body equally helps us heal we tend to resist if not utterly reject with our disregard and self abuse

  30. Your willingness to look at how you were living prior to getting your breast cancer diagnosis and to make on-going self-loving choices to support yourself to change the patterns that were so deeply engrained is inspirational and a level of responsibility that we all need to become attuned to if we are to turn around the ever increasing illness and disease statistics around the world.

  31. ‘I learned that my life and my health were a reflection of all my past choices.’ when we start to look at our lives in this way it is very empowering and it brings in our own responsibility to care for and love ourselves and not take our body for granted any longer.

  32. The key to changing how we feel about ourselves and our body is to start being more gentle and tender with how we hold and nurture our body. If we are willing to be honest we can start to initiate true change and the more we accept and appreciate ourselves the more we value ourselves for who we are.

    1. Yes, it is so important to offer the practicality of where and how we start to redress the balance that has become so ‘normal’ for us and yet has the potential to be abusing and harming without conscious thought. The willingness and dedication to bring a new level of self care is part 1!

  33. The crazy thing is that society champions ‘doing for others’ giving out awards and holding glamorous events. We are so hooked in to seeking recognition from others because of the lack of love for the self. Refining and refining calling out any recognition I seek from others especially from men at the moment is a constant commitment. All the love I could ever wish for and more is all there inside me and all I have to do is accept and embrace it.

  34. I have wondered why breast cancer affects so many women at a young age. There is a type of insurance that pays women if they get diagnosed with cancer, heart, stroke or a host of less common ailments. For women, 80% of all payouts are for cancer and much of those for breast cancer.

  35. Self-love and self-care is the best prescription we can offer to ourselves to support wellbeing in our body, mind and way of living.

  36. What I have discovered is the more deeply I care for my body the more rich and beautiful my life becomes. When I stop, life becomes difficult and challenges can seem insurmountable. There’s definitely a magic in caring for what we have and cherishing it.

    1. And there is a simplicity too, we feel what is supportive or not and can let things go is say ‘no’ without any obligation or duty getting in the way. Simply feel from the body and choose.

  37. Wow when I see that beautiful photo of you Jacqueline I think “Whatever would you reject” . . . and then I realise the ridiculousness of rejecting any little part of ourselves.

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