Breast Cancer – Prevention Has To Be Better Than A Cure

In the media there has been a lot of coverage on breast cancer, mastectomy and the ‘very few choices’ a woman has when diagnosed. It feels there is no time like now to look at how prevention is better than a cure and how more choices become available when we come back to honesty, and truly listen to our bodies.

A simple question perhaps we should address is:

What do we women need to change in order to prevent a diagnosis of breast cancer in the first place, so that we never have to face the possibility of a mastectomy, or taking drugs like Tamoxifen to prevent a mastectomy (not forgetting that there are side effects that come with this drug)?

Where do we begin? The answer appears obvious….

We have to look at ourselves, in how we are living on a daily basis and the choices we are making, in the knowing that every choice we make has a consequence and catches up with us at some point.

This breaks the illusion and delusion that we get off scot-free when we make ill choices with regards to our health and somehow, it has to be said, that when we have ‘youth on our side’, this fact does not seem to register.

Many women today experience stress, anxiousness, overwhelm, chronic fatigue, varying levels of depression and exhaustion, which have just become ‘normal’. As women we have become very creative with our coping strategies to get through the day, but the essential point is as long as we accept this way of living as ‘normal’, that is, choosing to give our bodies a constant bashing day in, day out, it is just a matter of time until our body says “Enough! Time to stop the body bashing.”

How does our body make us stop? Illness and disease stops us in our ill momentum, and gets our immediate attention. It can be anything from a broken ankle/leg/arm to cancer, diabetes, the flu, back/heart problems, etc. Thus the day comes to face the consequences of our choices because we did not listen to the countless messages from our body to stop, slow down, rest and change.

Why does it then come as a huge shock when our bodies break down, or malfunction and make us stop?

Let’s talk about the shock. The huge shock of the diagnosis of breast cancer in July 2011 shook me up, woke me up and was when I started getting honest with myself. For the first time ever, I started making different choices that I had always wanted to make, but just couldn’t, as my numbing habits/patterns and self-neglect had become so ingrained and so ‘normal’ I felt trapped.

Much later, my body whispered; ‘you needed the shock to wake you up, and you needed the cancer to make you stop and change your life’.

My body showed me that we cannot live how we want to without consequences.

What would happen if we as women stopped with the coping strategies and what would happen if we women stopped ignoring and rejecting our bodies?

Is it possible we might really feel how our bodies are actually feeling, and then we would feel the neglect, the disregard, the exhaustion and dishonesty we have been choosing, and even worse, we would discover there was no one to blame but ourselves?  

Being dishonest with ourselves is what we need to change and Being Honest With Ourselves Leads to More Choices….

When I came back to honesty, somehow the view of my life expanded as the thick fog cleared and I could see and admit how I had been living in total disregard to my body. I also got to see how totally disconnected I was to living as a woman. My constant rushing and relentless pushing, driving-to-do-more attitude, never feeling enough and giving too much all meant my body became so hard, I could not feel anything thus, my ‘shock treatment’ (breast cancer), literally shattered my walls of protection and hardness before I could make the shift from dishonesty to honesty – in other words I made the shift from living from my head to living from my body.

This made it easier to be honest with myself and created the space, for me to reassess my life lived thus far; for me to accept all I had lived and chosen to that point, and that:

My life had been my own creation… including my breast cancer.

Owning what I had created was hugely significant in terms of my treatment, my recovery and my healing and my positive experience with breast cancer.

This honest space opened up the tiny, little world I was living in – like coming out from a long time in a small dark cave into the sunlight, I had to take baby steps to find my way in the light again. Going at my own gentle pace supported me to feel what my next steps were and what felt right for me, and in this slower pace, I came to realise I had a choice in every moment:

  • To surrender or not
  • To accept responsibility or not
  • To ask for support or not
  • To accept my body or not
  • To truly heal and lovingly understand my past choices, or to have a quick fix
  • To change nothing and go back to the same old

Being honest with ourselves allows us to truly feel how exhausted our bodies are, and from that awareness, we have a new choice – to continue the same old, the neglect, rejection and abuse of our bodies, or to make a change; Change How We Feel About Our Bodies.

If we live in the knowing that we have a choice in every moment in every day, and that every choice catches up with us, it becomes clear our health is our responsibility, and our lack of health is our own doing, then perhaps our body will not need to malfunction and deliver something unpleasant to get our attention.  The question is: will your body get your attention today, or will you wait for the ‘shock treatment’ because:

Prevention is also a choice and has to be better than a cure.

In deep gratitude to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for all the support I received during my breast cancer and for the true understanding and awareness I gained of what illness and disease truly present; a clearing, a healing and a cure if we so choose.

by Jacqueline McFadden, BA in Computing and Human Resources; Teacher and Esoteric Healing Practitioner, The Netherlands

Further reading:

Lifestyle Choices and Breast Cancer Prevention by Jane Keep
Having a Mastectomy … Prevention against Breast Cancer: A Woman’s Choice – or is it? by Caroline Raphael
How Sacred Esoteric Healing Helped Support Me Through Breast Cancer by Lee-Ann Bailey

665 thoughts on “Breast Cancer – Prevention Has To Be Better Than A Cure

  1. Most of us as women come to a point where we feel tired or dare I say exhausted and yet we push through doing what we need to do regardless of what the body is saying to us, feeling burdened by the things we feel that have to be done. This is a classic scenario, which Jacqueline is saying that can be addressed early – we have the choice to say no and handle things differently and not at the expense of the body, but still embracing life and all its responsibilities. It is a slow learning process at times to change this in our lives and do things differently, but it certainly can be done.

  2. “My life had been my own creation… ” – most of us do not like to read this as this asks us to be accountable for all our choices including the ones that lead to health conditions such as cancer.

  3. Thank you Jacqeuline once again for an honest and raw sharing and one that allows us all as women to reflect on our choices in life and knowing that in the end we make our own choices (no one else can decide for us how to live and how to be in life).

  4. As a society we have yet to wake up to the fact that we are responsible for our own health, it does not belong in the hands of anyone else other then us.

  5. “For the first time ever, I started making different choices that I had always wanted to make, but just couldn’t…” This is a great line because it confirms we do know but may feel stuck or have something preventing us honouring our true feelings. I’ve recently begun stopping myself when I dishonour or override what I feel, and follow up what I really feel to do. It feels great, we really aren’t trapped.

  6. I used to sympathise when a woman was diagnosed with breast cancer however I now realise that this way of being does not support the woman. As devastating as it is to find a lump on the breast and a confirmed cancer diagnoses from what I now know to be true is that every choice we make, we know what we are doing on some level no matter the innocence we can play out. It is a question as to whether we choose ourselves as the glorious women that we are or live in a way that serves everyone around us because we choose to invest in that.

  7. “My body showed me that we cannot live how we want to without consequences.” Our body always shows us the truth about how we are choosing to live.

  8. It is telling that your diagnosis supported you to make different choices that you knew you needed to make but had felt previously unable to – it’s almost like your cancer gave you permission to take care of yourself.
    By sharing your story you reflect to other women that they can make the choice to take responsibility for their own health before they get such a dramatic stop moment which does not just impact them but so many others around them.

  9. When we start by being honest with ourselves we are more willing to listen to our body and how we are really feeling and more open to considering that our current lifestyle choices could be having a huge and detrimental impact. When we reconnect back to feeling our true sensitivity and gentleness our body calls us to initiate change and be more loving with ourselves and as our awareness deepens our body communicates what is self-abusive and what is not so that we are constantly offered an opportunity to refine our choices further.

  10. It would be great if everyone was taught this from a very young age, so they fully understood the implications, ‘If we live in the knowing that we have a choice in every moment in every day, and that every choice catches up with us, it becomes clear our health is our responsibility’.

    1. Well said Lorraine – what a different way to grow up, what a different opportunity offered at a much younger age, which would be such a blessing for humanity – not to consider the effect this could have on the incidence of illness and disease such as breast cancer.

  11. ‘My life had been my own creation… including my breast cancer.’ Never do we see this statement related to any cancer let alone breast cancer. Often we see ourselves as the victim of cancer.

    1. Yes Julie we are the first to blame either our genes or something else and/or indulge in feeling sorry for ourselves however the truth and honesty delivered in this one sentence touches every cell in my body; it is gold.

  12. ‘will your body get your attention today, or will you wait for the ‘shock treatment?’ Great Question. Attending to the body means really caring for ourselves and as we allow space for that in our lives our lives change. We become stronger and more confident and we are offered more responsibility, more opportunity to make a difference.

    1. Interesting to explore that with the rising rates of illness and disease there are so many more people focused on the impact of their own or a family member’s ill health and thus unavailable to work for the wider community. No wonder we are often struggling with a dearth of volunteers to get involved in community projects that benefit all.

  13. “Illness and disease stops us in our ill momentum, and gets our immediate attention.”

    Illness and disease offers us deep healing on many levels, then we know this harsh judgement of ourselves can be dropped.

  14. It is a great question to ask what we women can do to prevent breast cancer, rather than passively waiting until medical research finds a ‘cure’. To me prevention means living in a way that honours our woman’s body and creates harmony inside and out.

  15. It’s such a vital message presented here, that we can listen to our bodies now, or wait for the wake up call by ignoring and taking for granted our bodies and maybe even believing we are getting away with it, The honesty with self is so important, and I have also found that tools like Esoteric Yoga have been a support to reconnect me to my body so I can actually feel it and listen to it.

  16. Being honest with ourselves provides the space to look at our choices and way of living and see what is not truly working or supportive and the opportunity to choose to take responsibility and to be more gentle, tender and loving in how we hold and treat ourselves first that re-establishes a true inner quality to our whole being and the way we express ourselves outwardly.

  17. Absolutely, we always have a choice, ‘We have to look at ourselves, in how we are living on a daily basis and the choices we are making, in the knowing that every choice we make has a consequence and catches up with us at some point.’

  18. Some great questions here to ask ourselves. When we start to honestly look and feel the huge impact our way of living has on our body, we open up our awareness and feel an impulse to initiate true change to our health and well-being with a growing appreciation of how our body supports us the more we are willing to listen to what is needed and the more tender and caring we are in our choices.

  19. “If we live in the knowing that we have a choice in every moment in every day, and that every choice catches up with us, it becomes clear our health is our responsibility, and our lack of health is our own doing..” So true and prevention is a choice, as you say. Yet I see so many women – when they are clear of cancer – who choose to return to their old way of living – which got them to a cancer diagnosis in the first place. When will we – and the medical profession – wake up to the contribution our lifestyle choices make to any disease process?

  20. Reading this while ill today I realised that the past 3 months and longer of working long hours and being under a lot of stress (also self created) this illness has brought me to a stop. While not as ‘serious’ as cancer I feel it deserves to be treated as an equal wake up call as any other condition. There’s always so much being communicated whatever the body is using to get our attention.

    1. It is true Leigh, our bodies deserve equal treatment regardless of the severity of the illness, and whatever the communication is can be honoured with a change to how we are in our everyday.

  21. “How does our body make us stop? Illness and disease stops us in our ill momentum, and gets our immediate attention.” We carry on in our old ways knowing somehow they are not working and that something isn’t quite right. Our body sends us messages all the time such as a bumped elbow a bruise, to let us know we are heading in the wrong direction but we dismiss these messages in favour of our old patterns until such time as the body has to off load the excessive way we have been living in the form of illness and disease. When we truly understand this and that it is not that we are unlucky …or take on the ‘Why me’ syndrome, then we will see start to see things like cancer as a blessing and not a curse.

  22. More men die from prostate cancer than women die from breast cancer. However, the women who are affected are on average considerably younger so the impact is higher per person.

  23. ‘Prevention is a choice’ Yes, I completely agree and we start to understand that this choice comes from how we move. If we continue to move without taking time to consider how we are moving and if our body is at ease with it, then we will not pay attention to the small moments that are being offered to us to make a different decision. We will blunder on trying to keep up, cope, get things done. I can feel that fragility offers us a moment of physical honesty, a pause that says ‘here you go, take a moment to consider how you will move when you are physically unable to move in the way you have which has resulted in this exhaustion/illness/injury.’

  24. So often we resent these stop moments when our bodies pull us up and ask us to look at how we are living and the choices we are making. It is great that our bodies hold an honesty that allow us to see everything if we choose too.

    1. Yes, the less we listen to our bodies, the louder the message. We can only suppress these messages for so long.

      1. Well said Christophe – the body can speak loudly indeed and our learning is to catch the message earlier and earlier so that it is that much more easier to work with. And how amazing would it be to be so in tune with the body that one could instantly hear the messages and heed them. This is indeed possible.

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