Today I Sat Down – Nurturing Myself as a Woman

by Beverley Brown, UK

It was a usual Monday morning and I was getting ready for the day. I noticed I felt a little off as I had my period and it was a little uncomfortable, so this I gently pondered on.

I proceeded to shower, gently washing and drying myself, as part of my morning ritual. I then put on my underwear, which I had felt to warm on the radiator beforehand. This felt amazing and a very loving and nurturing thing to do.

Then came the make-up and hair. I usually stand in the bathroom (the light is better here) for the make-up, or in front of a long mirror at the top of the stairs where the hairdryer, brush and product station is.

Today, due to achy legs and a mild ache in my uterus, I felt to see what it would be like to sit down whilst doing both these tasks. I got a small folding chair from downstairs and placed it in front of the mirror and I sat down. I noticed the metal edge of the chair was slightly cold on my bare legs, so I put back on my pyjama bottoms and slippers to keep me warm. My make-up did not go on as usual and the mascara smudged down under and above one of my eyes. This did not faze me at all as I was caring for and loving myself so much by sitting down that it rubbed out the potential annoyance of the smudge effect, so to speak. As I sat applying my make-up I noticed that from my seated position I was not close enough to the mirror to see well enough without straining to reach forward. To correct this potential straining I chose to use a smaller hand held mirror. I felt like a movie star in a black and white film as I gently, carefully and quite elegantly applied my make-up, taking my time, paying attention to myself… and actually enjoying myself, too.

I continued to dry my hair and I noticed I was paying more attention to my body in my new found position of being seated. “Why had I not done this before?” I asked myself, as it felt amazing.

The hair and make-up were complete; not looking as tidy as they normally do, but all of this was absolutely fine as inside I felt amazing and not fazed by the fact that my hair had suddenly decided to become static and lively at the front, and also that one eye was not quite as perfectly made up as usual. I had taken so much care of myself and I felt the beauty of me from the inside to be so great that I just knew the outside would reflect this, even though to the eye it may not be perfect (a smudgy eye and static fringe!).

I then took the chair back downstairs and I used it to stand my washing basket on so I didn’t have to bend to the floor to get the washing from the basket. Again this simple and obvious choice made a huge impact on how I felt.

I had really taken care of me and it took no extra time and there was no ‘to do’ list about what I was doing.

A recent discussion with other women around nurturing has emphasised to me how self-nurturing is not about a long list of ‘have to dos’,  ‘to dos’ or a time consuming regime that ‘must be completed’ and “then I’ll feel like a woman because I’ve done it”. No, to really nurture me as a woman is about taking care and honouring myself fully. Not compromising my body in any situation, even when applying my make-up and doing my hair! I have learned through this experience that nurturing is a gentle flow of self-care from within that then plays out as an outer experience. The key for me was to actually bother to take notice of how I was feeling and honouring that in the moment it was felt, like sitting down when my legs ached. How easy is that???

The point really is how simple it is to introduce those little things in our everyday tasks and routines that can make a HUGE difference to our day, without taking extra time or putting undue pressure on ourselves.

Hey, I even ended up with plenty of time to write this down to share with you and still leave for work on time without rushing.  What an Awesome start to my day!!

150 thoughts on “Today I Sat Down – Nurturing Myself as a Woman

  1. While reading this blog my body was delicately opnening up and somehow experiencing the nurturing that you were describing on it. It’s like your body was talking to mine and the language of care was instanly clocked and understood. Thanks Beverly

  2. The routine of ‘This is how I’ve always done it’ can easily become a ‘to do’ list. When we stop and feel what honours our body those seemingly small changes can make an enormous difference to how we feel.

  3. Beverley this is gorgeous; gorgeous in it’s simplicity, gorgeous in how it feels and gorgeous in it’s deep wisdom. If we simply applied the principles that you share here we would transform our lives beyond measure.

  4. Allowing ourselves the space to honour our body is huge and an ongoing process. You originally inspired me to set up my dressing table and chair but after a recent move around of furniture I have not taken the time to adjust my hairdryer position as it is now at a more awkward angle. Great reminder to not compromise and always be open to the body’s communication.

  5. I enjoy sitting in front of a mirror now to do my makeup and hair and I can feel how appreciative my body is with my choice to take care of and to be gentle and tender with my body. True nurturing is in the detail we accept for ourselves from listening to and honouring how we are feeling inside.

  6. ‘The key for me was to actually bother to take notice of how I was feeling and honouring that in the moment it was felt’ – how often do we clock what we’re feeling and say to ourselves that we’ll deal with it later, or just not really bother allowing ourselves to feel something fully? And what would be the impact on our levels of energy, vitality, connection with others, if we did actually pay more attention to what we felt, and honoured it in those moments? I love how you’ve shared here that self-care isn’t a tick list of stuff to make us feel good, but a moment to moment choice to pay attention, to listen, and to honour what we feel – instead of dismissing it. Listening to ourselves and acting upon that is like we’re saying to ourselves, yes, I hear you and you are worth this level of care and attention.

    1. When we choose to listen to our body’s messages we are committing to a level of self-care that truly honours and supports us as we move through our day.

  7. I have experienced this too, how attending to what my body feels actually is very impactful and how it is easy to not do it and just do it the way I always do it. Yet listening in the moment allows yourself to surrender in the body instead of hardening to cope with the pain, tiredness or tension that is there at that moment.

  8. I agree Beverley, bringing in changes that support us can be very simple, ‘The point really is how simple it is to introduce those little things in our everyday tasks and routines that can make a HUGE difference to our day, without taking extra time or putting undue pressure on ourselves.’

  9. It is with the detail in which we choose to support ourselves that deepens our level of nurturing and true care for our body and honouring our inner beauty as a woman.

  10. Honouring what our body is communicating is huge and supports us to build a nurturing rhythm that is not about ‘have to dos’ but is about feeling what would support us in any situation. Thank you for the inspiration to explore this more.

  11. You raise a great point here, it is about what we are feeling in the present and honouring that now, ‘ key for me was to actually bother to take notice of how I was feeling and honouring that in the moment it was felt, like sitting down when my legs ached.’

  12. The way we can deeply care for ourselves is not determined by protocols, rules or text books; it is a moment to moment unfolding of what is there to attend to next, without rush or expectations.

  13. Thank you Beverley for sharing how easy it is to honour our bodies with that extra level of care and nurturing.

  14. This is beautiful, and makes my wonder how many times in the day there is the opportunity to be so attentive in one’s self-care. And maybe if I paid more attention to these opportunities I would feel the benefit of this throughout my body as I carry on with the daily tasks of life.

    1. Absolutely Shami it is not about doing x, y or z in the morning and then ticking that off our list as done but being open to exploring this throughout our day.

  15. ” Not compromising my body in any situation, even when applying my make-up and doing my hair! I have learned through this experience that nurturing is a gentle flow of self-care from within that then plays out as an outer experience.” Beautiful to read how we can lovingly support ourselves, even when not feeling 100%.

  16. Beautiful sharing Beverley self-nurturing can be very simple and straightforward in this example it was just through choosing a chair to support you that gave you a moment to fully appreciate yourself as a woman.

  17. It feels like nurturing is more of a movement that comes from inside of us, a connection to a quality and then being with that quality in all that we do.

  18. There is a quality within us that never fades away, that represents who we are in essence and in-truth is always waiting to guide us. When we start to pay attention to this quality, to what it is communicating to us, and begin to honor these impulses, the richness of who we are comes to life and we begin to live we a greater awareness and connection to our real selves.

  19. Being a woman is exactly that – a being and not a doing. A being that gets tended to in every given moment to the tiniest detail until it becomes as natural to us as breathing.

  20. Self-nurturing creates space in your body which creates space in your day. It’s simple how looking after your quality in how you do things supports you actually achieve more.

  21. Thanks Beverley, I enjoyed reading about your experiences again today and contemplating on those many little moments in my day that I could bring more care for myself to. I really enjoyed reading this line “…nurturing is a gentle flow of self-care from within that then plays out as an outer experience. The key for me was to actually bother to take notice of how I was feeling and honouring that in the moment it was felt”.

  22. Thank you Beverley for your sharing, for me this is it “The key for me was to actually bother to take notice of how I was feeling and honouring that in the moment it was felt, like sitting down when my legs ached. How easy is that???” I often get signals from my body but do I always pay attention to what my body is needing, It really is so simple as the body knows how to nurture itself.

  23. Having a ‘to do’ list and following it ticking it off can get in the way of the flow that is naturally present. Surrendering and ‘being’ in the flow means to me an allowing and accepting what is there in front of me and not dismissing and ignoring it because of what is to be done on my list!

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