A Successful Woman

Attending a women’s group has been a great support and valuable learning for me; it is something I cherish and look forward to. Just before the last women’s group, I came across some old notes that I had written from a women’s group a few years back. On the top of the page I had written a question: what does it feel like to be a successful woman? 

Underneath, I had written a list of everything I thought this was. But on reading, I felt like it was a list of things I wanted to be or thought I should be. Images and pictures would come to mind next to each one. As I was reading, I could feel these were all of the things that were outside of me.

Growing up, I used to think being successful was being married and having children, having a large lovely home, a great well-paid job, many friends, holidays abroad and so on. But now, a few years down the track I couldn’t feel that any of this related to being successful. There was a large chunk missing and I realised it was a great exercise for me to do because I now know there is so much more to women. I realised that success is not measured by what we have in life.

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The following month I came along to the women’s group and the penny dropped. The group spoke about a number of things; how we feel when we are on our own and how we feel when we are with others. For instance, we may notice that we change in different situations or for whom we are with. We stood up and spoke about ourselves; some spoke factually, giving their name, age, and work and some spoke about the qualities they bring.

As we continued, the women in the group became more honest and intimate in discussing themselves and taking the time to appreciate themselves. As I stood listening to the woman standing in front of me, the first thing she spoke about was how beautiful her eyes were, and as I looked into them I could see how much depth she brought through with them. They were a beautiful radiant green colour and as she spoke they sparkled. She had never appreciated her eyes in this way before and as she did so, she became more delicate and open.

Hearing and seeing her heartfelt appreciation, tears welled up in both our eyes and my mind flashed back to the list in my book. I could feel now the difference between what we think we know and what we would like to see as being successful, and what we know to be true when we feel it in our bodies. To be a successful woman is to be the real me, all of me, and to share this with others. 

Standing there in front of this woman, all I could feel was tenderness in sharing together. I could feel me and her and the group all as one; a connectedness to everything around us. The list that was lingering in my head had melted away and I felt something I had never felt before, an appreciation for the qualities we bring: qualities we could see in each other and all the women around us.

I could feel what it was to be a woman, what it felt like in my body, because it felt so warm and familiar; it felt like me without any walls or masks, without the lists and the roles I play. This feeling cannot be found in what we do, our jobs, our achievements, our ‘to do’ lists, a book or in a presentation. It is very simple and it is felt and seen within ourselves, because it is within us all.

By GS

First published on Esoteric Women’s Health, 27/05/2017

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37 thoughts on “A Successful Woman

  1. A truly successful women is always going to be a women who is open, honest, deeply caring and super enthusiastic about life. When a women has those qualities I know she is successful.

  2. Your words have me considering the ‘climate crisis’ in the world and how we avidly measure our age, weight and IQ but ignore the environment inside me and you. What quality did we move and feel in our body today? Is it possible that it’s this rather than any recycling plan or diet that will have the true change we seek in this world?

  3. No where do we confirm success as the level of love we live and express, no where do we confirm women as already full and amazing and no where do we openly confirm each others’ gorgeous qualities without comparison and jealousy – to do so is a game changer and one that is being re-learned and expressed within the esoteric community.

  4. What if success was measured by the quality of our life? I’ve always been relatively comfortable in life in terms of where I’ve lived, had friendships, relationships and jobs. But the quality has been vastly different over the years.

  5. Profound realisation: no effort required to become a successful woman, we already are! The only requirement is to release identification and attachments with outer roles, drop into our bodies and lovingly be ourselves.

  6. We live in a world where not only women are pressured to a certain “successful” image – it goes for men too. We circulate the same images, the same ideals & expectations for both genders, for all ages which make us feel completely crushed on the inside, yet nobody is willing to let it go. Why?

  7. I really love being with other people, open and transparently so. And the more open I am, the more I feel the qualities and inspiration in others. I definitely find it easier to have this depth of connection one to one, but know that when I give myself space to breathe and stay open I can feel it with groups as well.

  8. My definition of success has completely changed since attending Universal Medicine events. Its no longer related to any material success, outer beauty or relationships with others – altho they are a bonus. Its how I feel about myself and my relationship with myself. If I feel good inside then this is naturally reflected out to others.

  9. If we see success as getting ahead of others or being at the ‘top’ (when in truth there is no top that is a complete illusion) and about our achievements and what we do then it is never going to be ‘successful’. Success for me is when we truly make it about people and allow ourselves to be who we truly are … no energetic barriers or protection held up but instead allowing ourselves to feel the love that we are actually full of.

  10. It feels like a deeply precious moment when we can feel that sense of who we are embodied and appreciated – simply feeling who we are and bringing this to the world is a great blessing. The greater the transparency the more healing we offer in every moment. Connecting to our Sacredness as woman honours all other women everywhere.

    1. ‘The greater the transparency the more healing we offer in every moment.’ Yes Susan.. In transparency there is no protection, so the connection and reflection are instantly available, and this is a blessing for everyone.

  11. This has been so lovely to read and a gentle reminder to not get distracted from the truth that we all have everything within us to love, cherish and hold ourselves and others in every moment

  12. To live truly loving oneself with complete openness, honesty, truth and transparency is the greatest achievement one can attain.

  13. If we measure success based on how far up the ladder we’ve climbed, we will never feel successful – for there are always more steps to climb.

    1. …. and further to ‘fall’ from! Ah the imaginary ladder of success we have created to make ourselves feel ‘better’. We need to take down all those imaginary ladders and allow ourselves to feel the truth … and equalness in all.

      1. Imaginary ladder of success to make ourselves feel better, I like that because it highlights that we know something is not right so we create these steps to make it seem like we are okay.

      2. ‘imaginary ladder of success’ takes us nowhere. As we take the first on the ladder, we’ve already left behind the preciousness of our true and sacred self. The journey is to return to, not leave self.

  14. It’s funny but when I read the word ‘success’ it doesn’t ring true, not in any capacity, as in when I try and link it to the soul then it just feels totally out of keeping and I don’t feel that it’s because we have applied it to false forms of success, I feel that it’s meaning has no place in truth.

  15. The word ‘successful’ seems to me to convey a sense of having reached a certain point or pinnacle but that in itself is not true success because if we were to use the word successful then it would be used to describe a state of ever deepening expansion.

  16. “She had never appreciated her eyes in this way before and as she did so, she became more delicate and open.” It is truly beautiful what a woman’s self love does for her worth and well-being, and the blessing her inner radiance offers others.

  17. What constitutes success for most of us is not in actual fact success because it tends to mean that we have accomplished something at the expense of another, whereas true success will always benefit all others as well as ourselves.

  18. Beautiful sharing GS. You have shared from the depth of you and so it has touched the depth of me. When someone shares from the shallows of who they’re not then it can’t possibly reach the depths of who we all are.

  19. “I could feel what it was to be a woman, what it felt like in my body, because it felt so warm and familiar; it felt like me without any walls or masks, without the lists and the roles I play.” This is beautiful GS. A beautiful description of how you now view success.

  20. If success is determined by factors around us (our house, job, relationships, etc.) then it will constantly shift, change or fall away because the mind, which also shifts and changes like the wind at times, will reset the goal posts constantly. Connection with whats within us however never goes anywhere, it’s easier for me to connect to more than ever. Success isn’t something I have to strive and struggle for if it’s based on connection.

  21. I too used to think success was having it all physically and materially. No longer. Feeling content within my own skin, feeling settled, this is success for me now – just being me – and all that i am and can bring for me and others too.

  22. When we measure success by achievements we are missing out on the innate beauty of knowing and appreciating ourselves as a woman.

  23. What a success full woman you are GS. Thank you for sharing your experience with being successful in a much truer way. Most of us are so used to looking outside of us and then to compare what feels definitive not very nice in the body at all. Looking first inside allows us to feel our qualities and opens up the possibility not only to love ourselves more – it also offers us the opportunity to stop the comparison which is so normal between most women.

    1. And how world changing this will be, when we stop comparing and start living from a steady foundation knowing and loving our qualities and understanding the part we play in life, just like everybody else.

  24. How awesome that you got to explore and possibly debase what a ‘successful’ women means, is or looks like and that you took the time to genuinely appreciate each other. Groups like these and moments like these are pure gold.

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