Women: are we looking after our being in well-being?

We are a being inside a body: we are way more than just physical. As women, how often do we look after the physical body, but without looking after the being? The term
‘health and well-being’ can be used to refer to a body that is physically well, i.e. no major illness, no cancer, no aches or pains etc, but how well is the being inside the body? Is this what the term ‘well-being’ is actually referring to?

Do we have a natural vitality and an ease in our movements, are we fully engaged with life and everyone around us, are we living free of worries and do we feel like our life is in order? If we are suffering from anxiety, overwhelm, feeling emotional or stressed, unable to stay focused, not sleeping well, or depressed, these would all be signs that our ‘being’ is not truly well.

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Credit: Cameron Martin

How much as women do we honour this being inside us? The little voice that lets us know it is time to go to bed, or time to take a break from the computer screen, or time to have a walk or a rest… and do we honour how we feel? Our innate sensitivity and tenderness? We can feel it when someone speaks to us harshly, or when someone judges us, we can feel when someone is angry – we can feel when someone is feeling different to the words they may be expressing – do we honour these feelings?

As women, we are very good at ‘doing’, but not so good at ‘being’ (a reminder that we are human beings not human doings!). We can be very good at overriding the messages we are receiving, pushing through and continuing with something when the being and the body are clearly saying no – or not taking action on something when we are receiving an impulse to move forward.

What does it mean to honour the being? This could mean honouring what we are
feeling in every moment and not dismissing it: do we override what we are feeling, try to pretend we never felt it, ignore it, don’t deal with it, or go and eat something to numb ourselves a little or distract ourselves with Facebook or TV? Do we feel to make that phone call? Do we feel to go to that dinner? Do we trust what that person is saying to us? Are we in reaction to those around us, is there something unresolved that is not being spoken about?

All of these things are important and support us to nurture the being and maintain wellness. Not dealing with things and not honouring what we are feeling takes its toll on the body – in order to be truly well we need to deal with all aspects of our life, each is important and it is crucial to honour the messages we are receiving. Otherwise these unresolved feelings can build up in the body and may eventually manifest as a physical problem.

We can start by honouring what we are feeling, honouring what the body is telling us, speaking up when things don’t feel right, allowing ourselves to trust our inner wisdom, listening when the mind says one thing but the body clearly says another.

We have sensitivity, we feel energy, we have knowing, we can feel everything. How often do we listen to this part of ourselves that has a deep inner knowing, that knows the truth of any situation? Honouring this inner knowing will truly support our ‘well-being’.  Supporting ourselves by honouring what we feel and know as women then also becomes a great foundation for us to truly support all others.

By Kathy Byrne

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100 thoughts on “Women: are we looking after our being in well-being?

  1. When you have been holding back for a long time it seems quite impossible or very hard to open and speak up but even starting with paying attention to the psycical signs, like going to the toilet on time, feeling tired and acting on it etc. will assist in speaking up for yourself is my experience.

  2. “Not dealing with things and not honouring what we are feeling takes its toll on the body – in order to be truly well we need to deal with all aspects of our life, each is important and it is crucial to honour the messages we are receiving. Otherwise these unresolved feelings can build up in the body and may eventually manifest as a physical problem.” I can really relate to this comment, especially around expression and not taking the opportunity offered to say what I feel, it then sits in the body unexpressed and creates a disorder, tension and havoc.

  3. “We can be very good at overriding the messages we are receiving, pushing through and continuing with something when the being and the body are clearly saying no – or not taking action on something when we are receiving an impulse to move forward.” If both our body and being are saying “No” to something then there must be another factor at play that introduces the resistance and the dishonouring of self. It’s an important aspect to look at because then we can then begin to discern what this intrusive energy is and give it no power.

  4. It is when we start to be honest and work with these little things ‘Do we feel to make that phone call? Do we feel to go to that dinner? Do we trust what that person is saying to us? Are we in reaction to those around us, is there something unresolved that is not being spoken about?’ where bigger more supportive and caring changes can happen.

    1. That’s beautiful Vicky – and was a stop moment for me as I felt how much drive was going into what I was about ‘to do’.

  5. I have become quite good at listening to my body. However, sometimes when I check in there’s these blocks, an experience of tension in the body but no understanding of why it is there as normally words will come to me when I feel into how I feel. With the blocks there’s no words. So just now I sat with myself and the block. Maintaining connection allowed the block to fade away and then the understanding arose, it just needed a bit of space to do so.

    1. That’s great advice Leigh, we don’t have to work it out, as you say just stay connected to ourselves and be with it.

  6. “As women, how often do we look after the physical body, but without looking after the being?” This is such a great question Kathy. And yes, “We can start by honouring what we are feeling, honouring what the body is telling us, speaking up when things don’t feel right, allowing ourselves to trust our inner wisdom, listening when the mind says one thing but the body clearly says another.” How often do we do this I wonder?

  7. “What does it mean to honour the being? This could mean honouring what we are
    feeling in every moment and not dismissing it” This is great as it means in any moment we can change and instead of making harming choices we can choice love which is always good medicine.

  8. We have blamed men for far too long, it is very much worth looking at ourselves, how we live our lives & how much we honour ourselves before we start to point the finger.

    1. Yes, and we can blame family, friends, etc, and men can blame women, it’s a bit of an endless circle, we just need to come back to our own responsibilities and take care of our own lives. For me that’s why blog sites like this one are so important that have a focus on self care and self responsibility, as blame and disempowerment are so normal.

  9. Quite simply we can expand and offer so much to those around us when we look after and honour ourselves, disrespect ourselves and we are enjoining a way of life that is so so much lesser then the utmost divine love we all deserve.

  10. “Supporting ourselves by honouring what we feel and know as women then also becomes a great foundation for us to truly support all others.” As women we have been generally really very good at dishonouring ourselves and putting everyone else first. Now however as this blog shows we have a big opportunity to say yes to really honouring ourselves and when we do we see how our lives change immensely.

  11. You use the word ‘honouring’ lots in this article and every time I read it I feel a quality that encompasses care, respect, appreciation and much more. It is a very beautiful word and a great one to explore our understanding and application of. Thank you.

    1. I love this word too. ‘Honouring’ – not a word used commonplace in society today. One to expand, rather than the usual put-downs – of ourself or others,

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