Is it possible that there is an untapped resource at our fingertips: have we neglected the fact that we all hold innate wisdom, and through connection with this and sharing what we have learnt along the way we can support ourselves and other women to arise and flourish?
Is it possible that we all potentially complement one another and that the insidious and reducing behaviours of comparison and jealousy between women have distracted us from our true power, for far too long?
Could the truth of female empowerment be in liberating ourselves from our self-made limitations, celebrating one another’s qualities and actively being inspired by what other women represent, express and live?
Often underlying what drives the feminist ideals and equality movement is blame, seeking to force equality from a place of reaction, anger and indignation: in doing so are we in fact missing something here about our relationships as women?
Being united with a foundation of mutual respect and inspiration, understanding that we all have our own angles on life to share, is vastly different from seeking to be in a group which is based on victimhood, anger, force or blame.
The potential power of gentle, purposeful steady reclaiming of our birth right as women, through building a foundation of true unity, openness and support is beyond measure.
Consider how disunited girls are in the school environment, women in the work place, friendship groups: many of us will know that women often do not truly support one another. Competition, keeping the mask on, self-worth issues, victimhood, comparisons and insecurities often get in the way of building and deepening our relationships.
Can we allow ourselves to be real, raw and transparent with each other? As a wise woman once said to me, we need to get into the ‘nitty gritty’ of what is concerning us, how we can work together, what our old habits of hurt are – to heal, to flourish, to unite.
So when we meet, we do not need the preliminary niceties, or mutual moans, instead we can share with honesty, openness and be raw, no need to hide or place a veneer over life. In true unity we hold each other as precious and equal, and in our rawness we allow ourselves to be truly seen and appreciated by each other.
Intimacy builds from honesty and appreciating our own, and one another’s, true qualities.
I have astoundingly gorgeous friends: we have sweet loving, caring and evolving relationships. However there is always more to learn and I realise that it is time to reach out, build and be more open to relationships with all women for the purpose of evolution. What do I mean by that? I mean to reach out to learn more about being a woman: to develop wisdom, heal, share, be honest, and learn to not hold back from expressing myself. Evolution in relationships for me is about making a commitment not to sit with the status quo, but instead being open to always learning from one another with a purpose to build harmony, community and unity.
Evolution of myself is essential, yes, however when we are open to having honest relationships the more we build true intimacy as a community. As a global community of women this is potentially ground breaking: the more this happens the more we support and inspire all of humanity through reflection or ‘reflecting what it means to be a woman’.
Concerning our relationship: woman to woman, take a look around, feel the unique quality that resides in every one of us. How deeply beautiful we all are; all made of the same divine essence with our own way of expressing it, there is absolutely nothing to fear and no need to compare ourselves to each other.
We have a true resource of deep sacred wisdom and grace at our fingertips. We could be supporting one another gracefully with ease to arise and shine our light bright, through honouring what we feel, developing intimacy with others and seeking evolutionary counsel from those that we feel inspired by, understanding that there can be inspiration in every one of us, if we are open to feel it …
It can be the way someone expresses their vulnerability and delicateness, their authority, their love and care, their understanding of law, education, relationships, decorating, hair, science, politics, parenting, science, cars, gardening etc. a universal encyclopedia of life just waiting there to be accessed and appreciated.
Fundamentally we have a global community that could, if chosen, put down the arms of comparison and separation and truly support women to nurture the female relationship within themselves and those around them with a focus of evolutionary healing.
No holding back, no waiting for anyone else or anything else to happen. Instead, a simple, intimate, honest, open, reflective and expressive ‘way of being’ with all, that will enable us to support each other to empower ourselves, to grow and develop, discard old habits and bring and inspire a lived way of harmony, true community and unity on this planet.
By Samantha Davidson, UK
For further inspiration …
Basing a relationship at work on curiosity and not criticism – Jane and Monika share their story.
True relationships between women: ‘it starts with us and the worthiness we hold ourselves in.’
‘Comparison leads to compromise.’ Settling for anything less than love in relationships…is it worth it?