The Birth of my Son, a Magnificent Teacher

In September 2005 I conceived my first child, by November I needed no pregnancy test to tell me I was with child: I can remember opening the curtains one morning, standing still and once again clocking this deep vibration, a fluttering pulse within my body that was strangely unfamiliar yet at the same quite natural, I knew. Turning to my partner, I told him we were having a baby.

I felt amazed and blessed by the power of this bodily communication I was offered by my unborn child – an inner hum that emanated through my every cell, I felt deeply humbled and radiant.

I adored my pregnancy, caring for and appreciating this magical connection and contentedness within my body.

Being my first baby, I was offered much advice by doctors, midwives, family and friends. My sister at the time was training to be a Doula (birth companion and post-birth supporter) and my sister-in-law was a midwife – so I had plentiful support.

However, on reflection I see how I allowed myself to get caught up in the multitude of advice and images.

I felt the expectations and pressures there are for pregnant women to know exactly how to care for their child: the image that I should be the one in charge, the primary carer. These complications and expectations left a tension in my body that interfered with the natural bond I had with my baby and made it harder for me to feel the soundness and simplicity offered by our unified pulse, a constant confirmation that there was nothing I needed to be or do other than connect and walk this journey together.

My son was born in the early morning of June 15th 2006. There are no words that can do justice to the love and wonderment of meeting Eric. The ancient wisdom and still presence this tiny being brought through was extraordinarily powerful. My husband and I were in awe: this was no vulnerable fleshy baby. Eric was magnificent.

Still attached by the umbilical cord, I lay down and the midwife placed Eric on my chest – a moment of joyous repose for us both after hours of surrendering to the movements that would bring him out into the world.

With the advice of the midwife I placed him near my breast so he could latch on. In this moment I felt unsure and began searching for a picture, an image of what this could be. In this I opened the door to an influx of advice and information I had previously read and heard about breast-feeding. I had allowed the expectations to creep in, and I felt my body tense up with this feeling that I SHOULD know what to do.

However what then unfolded is the miraculous part that no one tells you……Eric showed me exactly what to do. In a few small movements he snuffled onto my breast, opened his mouth and began to suck, triggering my body to release the colostrum milk he knew he was to find.

How did he know how to do this?

My expectations led me to believe that it was all my job, that I needed to be in control: nobody told me he would be my teacher, that this ancient all-knowing being would show me the way. That it was he who would give me permission to let go and feel the simple power of our connection, to draw from the interactivity that we had been living together for the past nine months. The same unified pulse in utero that would bring all the innate wisdom that was required, my baby showed me that I need not look outside for the answers but know that they are already within.

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Lucinda and Eric Bathurst

Thank-you Eric, Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for confirming that we are all born teachers, and for showing me that I am everything already.

By Lucinda Bathurst, Somerset, UK

* Published with permission of Eric and Otto Bathurst.

For more Inspiration …

What is true education? The role of connecting and expressing in education and teaching.

Learning from each other: Rosie’s experience of parenting as a two-way experience and reflection.

‘Both the teaching and the process of parenting are powerful pathways to love and self-knowledge.’ Howard Chilton, Consultant Neonatologist, on parenting from the heart.

450 thoughts on “The Birth of my Son, a Magnificent Teacher

  1. I love what you describe about your pregnancy ‘feel the soundness and simplicity offered by our unified pulse, a constant confirmation that there was nothing I needed to be or do other than connect and walk this journey together.’ This reminded me that this is actually always the case: there is nothing for us to be or do, just connect to God and walk the journey together.

  2. This brings a tear to my eye that ‘are all born teachers’ as it exposes so much of the societal lies we have been fed and swallowed up. It connected to me the fact that we can all learn so much from each other at absolutely any age – even a few hours old. Thank you.

  3. So beautiful to read this again today and be reminded that we do not have to see life as a struggle and get anxious about the fact that we have not prepared for the event that is about to happen. What if our living way, every day, is our preparation. Being ourselves and bringing all that we are and surrendering to the moment, what if that is what prepares us, connecting to our inner heart, our inner knowing and ” caring for and appreciating this magical connection and contentedness within my body.” And allowing our absolute equality with another being. How awesome that we are all teachers for one another.

  4. Wow – imagine if the whole world approached parenting from this way – we would grow up much more stable, loving and embracing of everything that life has to offer.

    1. So often we are sold that a new born is here to learn and the parents, family and elders are the only teachers. This blog shows that the true teachers are those that are willing to learn from one another no matter their age.

  5. A very gorgeous sharing Lucinda, babies and young children are naturally wise, ‘The same unified pulse in utero that would bring all the innate wisdom that was required, my baby showed me that I need not look outside for the answers but know that they are already within.’

  6. Small children are the most amazing teachers if we are humble enough to heed their wisdom and I love that they present us with such simple questions that allow us to go deeper with our own inner knowing and expression.

  7. I love that we have this body that communicates way beyond our intellect and I hate that we are not encourage to surrender to that above ALL else we are taught through our antenatal classes.

    1. Choosing to trust our bodies allows us to step outside the expected boundaries of who knows what and how they impart it.

  8. Thank you so much for reminding me of the magic of surrender. Our body knows exactly what to do and how to be when we surrender to giving birth. It even let’s us know if something is amiss and we need support. I love that this little blessing that arrives surrenders to their body and knows innately how to breast feed.

  9. So gorgeous to read Lucinda, sharing with us the wonderment blessings and deep knowing that is in the connection between mother and child.

  10. So utterly and completely amazing to appreciate the ancient wisdom that is present in a new born child. It is awe inspiring – no doubt about it – to hold such grandness of love and beauty in your arms. And what’s more is how you had equal wisdom and love to know that here was your teacher, your guide, and you humbly followed in his lead, making you a natural mother.

  11. Beautiful Lucinda. A gorgeous expression of the intelligence we all naturally have with in us. Thanks for sharing.

  12. “I had allowed the expectations to creep in, and I felt my body tense up with this feeling that I SHOULD know what to do.” So many of us have this until we surrender to our deeper knowing and trust what we feel. In my work I support parents on a maternity ward and consistently remind them they need to feel whats right for them. Having pictures of how things ‘should be’ doesn’t serve us in any way.

  13. It’s lovely to read how you could see that your son is your equal and not lesser of a being simply because he is your child. The belief that children are blank and need moulding and have nothing of value to bring to the world until they are moulded is horrible. It’s awesome that theres a blog such as this challenging that norm.

  14. Along with weddings, pregnancy seems to be one of those things that attracts a lot of ‘advice’ from other women. As this blog beautifully presents our body has all the advice we can ever need. If the advice was to be still, tune into and respond to your body, then we would have a lot less stress and feeling like we don’t know in our pregnancies.

  15. This is such a beautiful reminder that we are born into this world already with an innate knowing of what to do and what our purpose is.

  16. What a beautiful gift children can teach us. Our relationship with them is so sacred and special and reading this makes me deeply appreciate the wisdom they bring and show. Something never to be discounted.

  17. What a gorgeous learning that your baby taught you, Lucinda, taking away all the fear that you might get it wrong, don’t know what to do, or won’t be good enough. He was the teacher and you responded.

  18. I absolutely loved reading this again as you share so profoundly of the awe available for us to explore in our connection to our bodies and with each other, when we are open and willing to surrender to the truth of what is always on offer. Our interconnectedness is 100% real and you highlight just how much we are guided by a greater love, wisdom and truth that is available to us all through our openness to connect to our bodies first and with each other regardless of age.

  19. Children bring the quality and reflection of innocence for adults to re-member that this quality is only buried within themselves.

  20. I agree Lucinda, the connection with you baby is everything as your baby will let you know exactly what is needed . . . more so than any book ever can.

  21. Lucinda, you write about your experience with the birth of your son, and I feel that what you powerfully shared with us, can actually apply to many different situations. Teachers are everywhere and they can come in many different shapes, sizes, ages, and sex. We are a forever student and when we are open to these teachers, they can appear and teach us much.

  22. I felt very much like this whenI meet my two children, when they where born “The ancient wisdom and still presence this tiny being brought through was extraordinarily powerful.” It is awesome to feel the power and stillness in a new born baby, honouring that which is naturally there in them and all of us has become a life’s work.

  23. The magic of surrender and the absolute joy of learning that is then found, explored and loved for all that it encumbers. Thank you Lucinda.

  24. ‘However what then unfolded is the miraculous part that no one tells you……Eric showed me exactly what to do.’ so beautiful how the natural movements such as these expose are attempts at control when we are uncertain when we just need to let go, feel what’s there and allow the knowing in our bodies to respond.

  25. I love your blog, Lucinda – the simplicity of your approach to bringing a child into the world, and how that child can be all the guidance we need if only we can be present enough to listen.

  26. The bodily communications you receive are quite profound when you are pregnant. I think this was the first time I had given so much attention and care to my body since I was very young. I fell in love with feeling the ever-changing movements within me as well as the changes in the way my body felt. This is such a gift to women to let them feel the magic of being still and body-aware.

  27. Lucinda, I love this; ‘The ancient wisdom and still presence this tiny being brought through was extraordinarily powerful’.How beautiful to see Eric for the amazing being he is and that he is already everything.

  28. This is such a sweet story. When we can let go, get our heads out of the way and simply allow our bodies and nature to do what it needs to do we can see that we are held and supported all the time.

  29. A beautiful honouring of surrendering to the constant unfolding of learning and discovery that is right there in front of us always. A magical moment indeed thank you Lucinda.

  30. Very beautiful to see how a mother is open to see the reflection of her child. This is also encouraging for the child to stay open with his light into the world as the most important adults in their young years confirm who he is.

  31. That’s really beautiful. Letting go of the outside influences and trusting that it’s all there before you goes against eh grain of how we have been configured, but it doesn’t take long to settle into what was always natural.

  32. Every so often in our lives arrives a person, a precious being who shows us clearly that we cannot blame and shift responsibility. They help us see that what we choose, defines how we are and effects them too. Some of these relationships can seem like the hardest trial and yet when seen with loving eyes you can understand that they are there to help us truly shine. Thank you Lucinda for sharing how this occurred for you.

  33. Thank you Lucinda, I really understood today how the outside world offers a myriad of beliefs, ideals, expectations and pictures, which can be both confusing and disempowering, when within we have access to everything – we are indeed the everything.

  34. Beautiful article Lucinda. There is so much advice for women on how to look after their baby, so many books on offer to tell us how to do it and what to do and very rarely are we told to ‘trust ourselves’ and to trust that there is a natural connection between us the baby and that together we will know what to do.

  35. Our children are certainly magnificent teachers when we allow them to show us the way. Surrendering to this process and not getting caught in pictures of how motherhood should look is crucial if we are to avoid a lot of heartache on both sides.

  36. The true power of intelligence is deeply held within us all and it is us who then holds the choice to surrender to what has been shared. Lucinda this is truly inspiring, thank you so very much for sharing.

  37. Thank you Lucinda for sharing your gorgeous story which is a great reminder of how there is a deep well of wisdom present within us right from the moment we enter this world. All that is necessary for us to access it is for us to surrender and heed what is being shared with us.

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