Ever since I was a child, the world always presented a really consistent view of ageing as being something I most definitely should not consider looking forward to. Old age has certainly been given bad press by everyone. There’s the adage ‘old age does not come alone’; that, along with all the many derogatory jokes about getting old, made it quite clear that ageing was not to be valued at all.
As a child if I looked at the men and women in my life who were older and they did not present an inspiring view of being older. I recall seeing old women who always seemed very ancient to me, having very wrinkly skin, dressing in drab dark colours and with their hair always grey, worn in unflattering styles. I could not imagine them ever having been young, happy or carefree.
Seeing younger middle-aged women didn’t give me a good feeling about getting older either – I saw many talking together about their pains, depression and criticizing other women.
Each generation seemed to struggle with ageing and each, including my own, had challenges in the times they lived in, with most of us seeming to give up and act in ways which reflects those struggles.
Yet now here I am, in my sixties, an older woman who is beautiful, vital, and lively, and who works at a traditionally high stress and high burn out job; yet I have more energy than I did in my thirties. I am more engaged with life, the world and the community I live in than at any other time in my life.
What has changed for me?
How I live my life!
Having developed my appreciation of the woman I am through dedicating myself to making on-going self-loving choices:
I know the key is about loving myself and not letting abuse into my life.
Loving myself determines how I feel at any age.
I have learned that the depth of love I can give to myself is then in everything I do, say and think. It is the love that is with me at the beginning of the day and the love I take to bed with me at night.
I am learning just how much that
If I choose this gorgeous ever deepening love in me, then I can feel for myself how sexy that really is.
People can’t help but notice this, and yes – in a world that makes older women invisible, they notice.
I was in a meeting recently with a man who I hadn’t met before, he asked me politely, ‘how are you?’ I replied ‘Well you know, I’m really, really well thank you.’ He looked at me properly for the first time, leaned back in his chair and said in a very surprised voice, ‘Yes! You do look really well!’
He seemed puzzled to realise this was so.
He is right: not only, do I look ‘well’, I am radiant, I walk with a confidence and grace that is super-sexy.
Sixty brought me a new freedom. Sixty-two is here and I feel a real love of being alive and accepting of my amazing and beautiful self.
I find myself to be ageing at a most glorious time in my life when I can now state without any hesitation –
Why would anyone not want to be older?
This age I am has so much freedom, fun and juiciness to it and this all comes from the way I live and the day-to-day, and, moment-by-moment choices I make in my life. Such as, refusing to allow that super-critical thought in, or let any thoughts attack me, choosing what I eat and what I don’t eat. And yes, I enjoy wearing clothes to show off my gorgeousness – tying my cardigan in a knot under my breasts, choosing colours and styles that express how I feel, but I recognise that
There’s nothing in this world that can give me the beauty I am as a woman.
This is me and I am grace in motion.
The inspiration for living in this way has come from attending workshops, presentations and courses by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and from talks and presentations by two gorgeous wise women, Simone Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon. They are like goddesses at their age, and inspire me to feel like a goddess at mine.
By Ariana Ray, England
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