Beauty Tip for Women: Ladies, Pull up a Chair!

All my life I have been the typical ‘no fuss’ woman who ‘put my face on in 5 minutes’! Then all this changed, I felt that standing up to do my morning beauty routine just wasn’t cutting it anymore, so I decided to pull up a chair, a simple act that led to a miracle!

Pull up a Chair SG Image 1
Sharon Gavioli, May 2015

Unusual beauty tip you might say, but for me it has made a huge difference in how I feel about myself throughout the day.

About 17 months earlier, I introduced self-care into my daily routine as it became clear that my body was constantly showing me that how I was caring for myself simply wasn’t working;

  • I was often sick,
  • Generally exhausted,
  • Quite overweight and
  • Struggling to get through most days.

I knew that ‘something’ needed to change, but who would have thought that ‘that something’ included a four-legged object?

Most of my adult life I had only identified myself as a busy working mother with seven kids – yes you heard it correctly, 7!

I was 10 out of 10 for efficiency and meeting other people’s needs. I left myself last on the list and ‘only if I could squeeze something in’.

By being more honest with myself I discovered that I had lost what it meant to care for me as a woman as I only saw myself as the super woman!

The toll of being a super mum resulted in me dragging myself out of bed each morning due to exhaustion. I would force myself into action to organise the family’s morning rush – nothing short of a military exercise! To spend even 5 minutes in front of the mirror was actually a feat. I rallied to do this as a sign that I was coping and that I had ‘put on my face’… or rather a mask to face the day.

So the act of ‘putting on my face’ is where I decided to commit to bring more self-care into my day.

This began with me taking more time to prepare in the morning, which changed my 5-minute standing beauty routine to a much more enjoyable and dedicated process of applying my make-up with more attention. Taking my time and appreciating that I deserved this time for me, naturally impacted how I went about my day. I felt more able to complete what was needed with my family and work without any resentment as I had made the choice to support me first!

Sitting down in front of my magnifying mirror I began to feel a new level of care and nurturing for myself. Over time as I looked at myself, I began to connect to my innate beauty rather than always seeing my perceived flaws, based on how I would compare myself to other women or to any idealised version of how I ‘should’ look – or even what I thought I needed ‘to do’ to feel okay as a woman. To my amazement this beauty actually had nothing to do with what I saw in the mirror or what I needed to do, but more how I felt about myself.

Being seated enabled me to delicately apply my make-up without rush, to apply mascara slowly and tenderly to each lash… and for the first time I could see how lovely my eyelashes are. When I finished I was able to appreciate the fact that I am a woman before I am a mother and that I had created this moment to look into my 53 year old eyes to connect and truly feel how beautiful I am, inside and out!

Amazingly, I am now a woman, an early riser, who allows herself up to an hour and half each morning to prepare for my day, which includes exercise as well as my beauty chair routine. Now that’s a miracle!

Pull up a Chair SG Image 2
Sharon Gavioli, May 2015

Without realising it, I have discovered an essential beauty tip, using an everyday item that actually delivers what it promises.

Who would have thought that the simple choice of sitting down to
apply my make up would have
allowed me to reconnect to my true beauty as a woman! To carry the beauty I feel within me into my day, and from this to feel that same beauty in the people I interact with! Pretty amazing beauty tip, from a mere choice to ‘pull up’ a chair!

By Sharon Gavioli, Age 54, Registered Nurse, Birth Educator, Counsellor, Brisbane, Australia

You may also enjoy:
Is True Beauty Really In The Eye of The Beholder? by Adrienne Hutchens
The Natural Yearning and Impulse to Express Our Beauty by Gina Dunlop

773 thoughts on “Beauty Tip for Women: Ladies, Pull up a Chair!

  1. When we prioritize others over ourselves in a self sacrificing way then this is a situation that cannot last….for at some point we will run out of fuel if we never stop to fuel ourselves. And to fuel ourselves, this cannot purely be functional in terms of shoveling some food into our mouths, for there is so much more to this in terms of what we fuel ourselves with but also how we prepare that for ourselves and how we can embrace this too…Really it is about holding equal priority of self and others.

  2. Awesome article Sharon and perfect in its timing of me reading this too – there are many ways over the years that I have learned to build more and more self care and nurturing into my day to support myself and appreciate myself and I am now finding that I am at another point in life where this needs to deepen, or yet once again change with greater attention to the detail of what my body now needs given how I have grown over the years. Reading this article has re-inspired me to explore this all over again! Thank you!

  3. True beauty, as ‘they’ say comes from the inside and from the eye of the beholder and not from any superficial work or adjustments: “To my amazement this beauty actually had nothing to do with what I saw in the mirror or what I needed to do, but more how I felt about myself. “

  4. “I had lost what it meant to care for me as a woman as I only saw myself as the super woman!” A beautiful realisation that being a ‘super woman’ for everyone else is a distraction from knowing the naturally beautiful woman you are.

  5. Sharon, I too now enjoy and appreciate sitting down to put on and take off makeup at the beginning and end of the day and feel how much my body feels supported and nurtured with this dedicated time to connect to myself and feel my attention focusing on the delicateness of my movements. So much so that sitting down has been extended to include several other things like brushing my teeth and drying my hair.

  6. When we spend even 10 minutes fully paying attention to whatever it is that we’re doing, like getting ready in a way where we’re not rushing – that totally impacts the quality of the whole day. I’ve found that the more I take care of myself and actually listen to what my body needs – and honour that – the more easily I get on with it and just do whatever’s needed, without the resentment. Always a choice to override what the body needs, or deeply listen to, honour and cherish it – and enjoy the space and lightness that comes with that.

  7. “Then all this changed, I felt that standing up to do my morning beauty routine just wasn’t cutting it anymore, so I decided to pull up a chair…: – to allow space is to allow beauty to be.

  8. My top tip at the moment is when I close my eye to wipe my eye make up off at the end of the day is to take just 2 /3 seconds to deeply connect and appreciate everything I have brought to the day.

  9. How many of us are prepared to pull up a chair and spend the time to truly paint our make up on in a way that highlights our beauty? To stop, to pause and to look at ourselves in the mirror, to truly see the reflection looking back at us?

    1. When we are not used to allowing ourselves to see our own beauty, this feels like a foreign thing to do, and yet it is one of the most loving things we can do to ourselves to lighten our day and appreciate ourselves and others even more deeply.

  10. Giving our selves that time in the morning to be with ourselves does set us up for whatever the day has to present in all its glory. My common phrase to myself used to be ‘That will do’ until I realised that I was cutting myself short and settling for less.

  11. ‘To carry the beauty I feel within me into my day, and from this to feel that same beauty in the people I interact with!’ The power of committing to taking care of ourselves then ripples out to everyone we meet – truly inspirational thank you Sharon.

  12. This is amazing that this simple act of honouring your body made such a difference to what you took into your day, ‘Who would have thought that the simple choice of sitting down to
    apply my make up would have allowed me to reconnect to my true beauty as a woman! ‘

  13. It is extraordinary how a simple choice like sitting down to apply your makeup can have such a huge ripple effect. I have found this with other seemingly minor choices in the way I am in my day too. Those choices say things like, “I am worth it, or I care about how my body feels,” which my body and being hears and feels very nurtured by.

  14. And I’ve found too that it’s not just pulling up a chair, but what you do with that chair once you’ve pulled it up, as in… you can still rush or think about something else rather than use that moment to absolutely one billion percent cherish yourself.

  15. How we feel about ourselves is so fundamental. It doesn’t matter how amazing life is, if we do not have a loving relationship with ourselves then we do not really feel the amazingness or appreciate all that we are given. Self-love and appreciation should be our very first lessons in life.

  16. Sometimes a simple action of pulling up a chair and allowing ourselves 5 minutes of true care, no judgement or thinking of what to do next, but a moment to appreciate ourselves can do wonders for our health. It is a moment to be with ourselves and stop the motion of doing everything for everyone. We don’t need to be super mums all we need to do is be ourselves.

  17. This is lovely, that you allowed time for you, and noticed how it changed your day, ‘Taking my time and appreciating that I deserved this time for me, naturally impacted how I went about my day.’

  18. I loved what you shared Sharon, a simple act of pulling up a chair, lovingly taking time to be with you and appreciate your beauty, setting yourself for the day ahead. Simple acts performed in self love can be amazingly powerful.

  19. I recently put a stool in the bathroom to sit down when I was creaming my legs or when I was tired from a day walking around and needed to brush my teeth sitting down. It is beautiful to feel the change when I did this and how I felt so much more able to focus on what I was doing instead of wanting it to be over soon because I was too tired to stand up long!

    1. I have a chair in my bathroom too and often sit to brush my teeth. I love that I can do this in honour of my body and not consider myself weak for doing so.

  20. Beautiful article to re-read Sharon. Letting go the super-woman cape and simply return to honouring the woman within through self-care and more loving choices is evident in your pictures – there is a delicacy and grace emanating from the inside out with no sign of the super-woman cape of hardness constricting your body.

  21. We’ll spend thousands on beauty products in the blink of an eye, but all the time the true beauty ‘secret’ is the quality we choose. Take a moment to apply a cream to face with all the tenderness in the world in your hands and you will see everything transforms.

  22. Loved your article Sharon. I will try this as well as a man. Surpised? I don’t put make-up, but do take of my hair, put on some cream on my face. Let’s see what happens if I, or men in general, pull up a chair.

  23. “….. I was able to appreciate the fact that I am a woman before I am a mother. ” How many of us can say this – tending to put our duty – be it mothering, caring, working etc before being and living as a woman first? Beautiful to read about how it made a difference to your day and your energy.

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