Last year I entered into a new relationship and settled for less than love. I knew deep down that I am worthy of love and deserve to be adored, but I chose to settle for less, because there is still a part of me that wants to be with a man, not on my own.
I feel that as women, we have been overriding our own clear signals and needing / relying on someone else’s approval for decades. We have often settled for less in a new relationship, not truly seeing we are worthy of love or claiming that we deserve to be adored for the beautiful woman that we are. This is no fault on anyone else, but our own choice for settling for less and for not loving ourselves enough to know our own worth.
To settle for less, I had to override what I knew to be true to me. I did not listen to what my body was saying, all the subtle and the very loud messages. Examples of these messages were feelings of tension at seeing this man, or a sense that something just wasn’t right. At times my whole body would feel very tense or I would not be able to be still. These messages come in many different ways and I am sure would be different for each of us.
In making this and similar choices against our deeper knowing, we have to leave ourselves more and more so we would not have to feel the result of our choices in our body.
The way we choose to live, speak, express, eat, sleep and be each day has a huge effect on us and the reflection we offer to others.
So why do we override those very intelligible signals within our body that are super loud and clear when something does not feel right?
Do we need someone else’s approval or permission?
Who are we waiting for?
Is it not well overdue that we make a different choice, and let all women know too, that they are worth love and adoration, that abuse is not normal and playing games is no longer acceptable? If each one of us keeps allowing it, what are we showing our daughters? If on the other hand we start making different choices, we can inspire others that they too are worthy of love and so much more.
This relationship that I write about did not last long. One day I looked into the mirror and noticed that I was wilting, like a flower whose petals were drooping. I knew that that reflection was not me, therefore something needed to change.
- It is with the support and learning from Esoteric Women’s Health that I have been able to learn to love myself more and trust those inner feelings.
- It is with the Sacred Movement modality that I have been able to connect more and more to the sacredness of the woman I am.
- And it is with the support of the My Cycles app Period and Full Moon Diary that I have become more aware of how everything starts to repeat itself, and that we keep coming back to the same place until we are ready to change and make a different choice.
The responsibility to change the cycle is up to each of us and this then provides the loving foundation for our new relationship with ourselves that is not dependent on approval or permission from another.
We are our own science projects
When we look into the mirror
We can see if We are wilting or if We are blossoming
And all of this comes down to the every single choice we make.
By Rosie Bason, Goonellabah, Australia
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