What sexy means to me has changed dramatically over the past three years, since attending the Women in Livingness Groups, held monthly in London. I used to see being sexy as something outside of me that I could buy, attain or an approach that if studied hard enough could bring me that sexy look. I used to see being sexy as an age thing and that as you went past a certain age that was it – no more sexy!
Well I am super glad I have put that belief to bed; I have now met many, many women who inspire super sexiness at all ages. These women are happy and content with who they are, they know they are not perfect but there is tender openness with a joy and a willingness to explore who they really are. Over the years that I have attended the women’s groups, I have seen the ladies flourish as they deepen their connection to the real, truly sexy women they are.
This has been a real blessing and truly inspiring to see. I can feel my body rejoice in the inspiration of these women as they deepen their self- acceptance for themselves, and love for who they are.
Society imposes on us what sexy is.
Sexy is not a picture in a magazine that tells us how we should look.
Sexy is not about showing as much flesh as possible.
Sexy is not about flirting and being all smiles and puppy dog eyes, yet hiding behind a façade of insecurities.
Sexy is not about being taken advantage of in any single way.
Sexy is not about inciting male attention to hide a lack in ourselves.
Sexy is not about making other women jealous.
Sexy is not about inciting comparison.
Sexy is not selling a product or selling yourself.
Sexy is not seeing a look on a billboard and feeling “wow that is sexy I want to look like that”.
Sexy is not manipulating a situation to get what you want.
Being sexy is not using looks or sex to gain affection.
Sexy is not dressing just for the attention of others.
Sexy is not acting seductively to “hook” a male in.
Being sexy is not being domineering, or meek and pathetic.
Sexy is not about being abused in any way.
Sexy is not acting promiscuously or promoting it in any form and it is definitely not found on MTV.
True sexiness is:
- How we move.
- How we are gentle and tender with ourselves.
- How we walk.
- When we feel amazing, and claim it rather than holding it back.
- How we blink our eyes.
- How aware we are of our breasts.
- How when our posture is aligned and chest lovingly expanded we stand open ready to give and receive love.
- The way we can feel connected to and be aware of our ovaries and uterus whilst carrying out mundane tasks.
- In our voice when we talk with clarity and presence.
- An inner confidence that is not altered by other’s perceptions, whether good or bad.
- The clothes we choose to wear that accentuate the beautiful woman already there.
- In the way in which we deeply honour ourselves whilst getting ready for the day.
- How we interact with all those we meet, holding them, connecting with them and not holding back and not trying to be more or less.
- Simply expressing what is there to be expressed.
- Being playful, and being in the moment.
- Dressing for yourself and feeling the texture of the fabric on the skin and the way it feels and flows on body.
- Choosing underwear that confirms the beauty we are, making sure the fabric feels good against the body.
- Giving yourself permission to say YES to life.
Being Truly Sexy is enhanced by being in touch with our natural rhythms and cycles; it is about inspiring other women that we are ALL truly sexy, and all we need to do is connect to the enormous sensual, sacred and tender love that we have inside.
As women we all have a unique sexiness that comes not from looks or any outside skill we perform. True sexiness is there already within, waiting and wanting to come out. Thank you to all you sexy ladies out there for inspiring me to be the full, truly sexy woman I am!
by STC, UK
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