My Reincarnation through the Menopause

My menopause began when I was 47 years old and this was at a point in my life when everything was changing. My marriage had come to an end and my daughter and my son were preparing to leave home. Little did I know at that time that this was just the beginning of life, and that I was about to be reincarnated. I use the word ‘reincarnated’ because that is how it feels in retrospect – as though:

All that I had been before was a shadow of the woman I am today.

I am now 69 and the intervening years have been a gradual unfoldment from a point where I felt discarded and where:

I had no concept of how it would be to live life without the recognition of being needed.

I am now at a place where I have become more confident in who I am and I feel a beautiful woman in my own right.  In 2008 I started seeing an esoteric healing practitioner, and with her support I gradually realised that I would like to know more about the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. As I began to read ‘The Way It Is’ I felt an instant connection and inner knowing that this book was presenting something that was familiar and would take me to a place of deeper connection. It was unlike anything else I had come across before in this lifetime.

It was not preaching something new to me, but encouraging me to go within and seek from an innate knowingness.

The last six years have been amazing – although I did not always make them easy. The way in which I challenge myself has now become a point where I can reflect, recognise and take responsibility. I am becoming more open to the wisdom reflected back to me from the amazingly beautiful women around me, who by their reflection are supporting me to connect deeply within. As I become more aware and familiar with myself it also allows me to connect to those around me and we can then expand the experience together.

Once a month I attend a Women’s Group in London presented by Sara Williams. This commitment has been a pivotal part of my unfoldment as I am meeting other women and together we are exploring how it is to feel more connection to our bodies and what it is that our bodies are presenting to us in the way that we feel as women.  This is supporting me to connect to my body in a totally new way.

I feel the tenderness and delicacy of their reflection, and this allows me to connect to that same feeling within.

I am slowly opening to the idea of how in the past I have totally disregarded all that my body is offering me each and every moment, of each and every day. The whole process of realising this is allowing me to feel and have a sense of what it is like to be a woman. Previously I would have identified myself as a mother, wife, sister, daughter or something else that identified me by what I did. I am now beginning to feel the divine essence of me as a woman as I begin to connect to my power from within, as well as the preciousness and delicacy of a woman that is true and committed to all that she truly is.

At the Women’s Group we have also been looking at the cycles in our lives as women, and in particular the cycles we are offered by our monthly period, and for those in menopause, a cycle based on the moon cycle. I have been very resistant to actually using the cycles to support me as I have been following a now too familiar pattern of doing things my way and also not being fully committed to myself and humanity.

As part of my unfoldment I have also committed to the Esoteric Women’s Health Programme which for me is a series of 12 sessions with Sara Williams. When reaching the tenth session it was truly amazing to feel the shift as I became more willing to begin the process of surrender. At the same time I began to realise my power and how, if I am holding back on this power, there is an impact not only on my life but on those around me and beyond. I could feel how the impact of holding back affects the cycles of our lives as we are contracting and restricting the natural rhythm of our body – which is to expand.

Menopause feels like a time of amazing opportunities to expand our lives even further and to confirm and consolidate all that we are learning. This feels so refreshing after the previous imprint of menopause being a time when women lose their vitality as they approached the end of their temporal lives and gradually give-up on that life. Now that the body can no longer reproduce we tend to disconnect from our sexiness and the full vibrancy of everything that we associate with being a woman in her prime.

Menopause is an amazing opportunity to deeply connect to that wisdom we can all innately connect to if we so choose.

It can be a time to explore our essence and allow this depth to build and develop and to become a reflection of all that we are.

I have been a post-menopausal woman for the last 22 years of my life and if I live to the age of 85 I will have spent 38 years of my life as a post-menopausal woman. For some time now I have felt that I have far more to offer to the world – that I am not ready to just sit and wait for old age and eventually a time when I will pass over to the next plane of life.

So it is time to ponder…

What is the menopause all about? Is it a time to withdraw from life, or to celebrate the awesomeness we are as women?

by Susan Lee

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600 thoughts on “My Reincarnation through the Menopause

  1. There is a freedom that comes when you stop trying to fit into another persons picture. Menopause offers the space to deepen that connection with your body which opens a way of living that might not have been lived before now.

  2. I have heard from many women that menopause is a time of going into a new phase in life, our perception changes and we began to see the world differently. In society this is not how this period of a woman’s life is seen, it is seen as a horrible time, something to despise and not look forward to. Many women try to delay it with pills, hormonal patches and the likes. Yet if they have the correct emotional support, this time can be very healing and hugely empowering.

    1. what is interesting is I am starting to find I am around more women who see it as an opportunity not a curse which may be the age range I am in, or that more women are not subscribing to the picture and actually seeing and discerning for themselves

      1. Ah that’s great, it would be good to meet women like that and hear their experience. Why they have that perceptiom and how they handle the change.

      2. When I open myself up to the possibility of trusting my body it opened me up to the wisdom of the Universe. When we stop allowing our minds to run the show the body can emerge as the seat of all wisdom.

      3. That’s beautiful Lucy – the more we honour our body the more our body is drawn to love – and may this love expand.

    2. Yes, indeed support feels very healing and allows us to surrender to the cycle and the healing we are being offered. Life can be magnificent when we are open to every moment and the beauty we are being offered.

  3. “if I am holding back on this power, there is an impact not only on my life but on those around me and beyond.” There is a magnificent power in women in menopause when they know who they are.

  4. How absolutely beautiful Susan, a time to celebrate us as women, and menopause is absolutely no exception. Thank you for this sharing, it allows all of us to consider how we are with menopause and that there is a depth in all women always there to be shared with the world.

    1. And what a blessing – sharing our innermost with those around us and feeling the wisdom to be found in the sacredness of women. At last we are beginning to recognise the true meaning of sacredness and the beauty of all that is contained within a woman’s body. We are here to offer a way of returning to love and grace in the truest sense.Our Livingness speaks a thousand words.

    1. Yes, Caroline – and the wonder and magic is that being open to this expansion we allow a greater flow of this wisdom to inspire a further unfolding.

  5. Reading that going through menopause was the beginning of life for you, where you rediscovered what it is to be and live as you without the need for recognition or without needing to be needed – this is huge, totally turning around perceptions that are so rife in society that menopause marks the beginning of the end – when actually it can be a new beginning and a blossoming.

    1. It certainly is a new beginning Bryony – and the beginning of an unfolding and deepening – nothing truly ends while we are still evolving to become the sacredness that we as women hold in our bodies – a beautiful honouring and beholding love as we open up to the world and expose the myth we have been living up until now.

  6. The gift of Universal Medicine and Women’s groups is that we are offered the opportunity to re-connect to our innate knowingness whatever phase of life we are in but also being a menopausal woman what it has allowed me to feel is how I have so much to offer during this phase of my life and it is a choice to embrace this fully or shrink into old age feeling used up/spent.

  7. The cycle of menopause is one of the many cycles within a woman’s life where she is offered an opportunity to embrace, explore and expand a deeper level of awareness.

  8. The more we embrace and live in tenderness the more we inspire other people to equally live in their tenderness, ‘I feel the tenderness and delicacy of their reflection, and this allows me to connect to that same feeling within.’

    1. By reflection we can inspire others – tenderness can be and is in my experience a reality that can be felt within – we instantly know that another is tender – we can feel the response in our body as it expands and feels held by the tenderness of another.

  9. Living as a shadow or being afraid of shadows is our normal till we have a reflection in our lives that shows something different and thank God for those reflections in the Esoteric Women’s Health Community.

    1. Yes Lucy ‘thank God for those reflections in the Esoteric Women’s Health Community’ without which we would be further removed from our essence and a knowingness that allows us to return to our true path.

  10. What a gorgeous claiming Susan, ‘I am now beginning to feel the divine essence of me as a woman as I begin to connect to my power from within, as well as the preciousness and delicacy of a woman that is true and committed to all that she truly is.’

    1. When we begin to connect with this inner knowing we more readily understand that this feeling is universal and in no way limited to our body alone – below the surface we are all the same.

  11. “Menopause is an amazing opportunity to deeply connect to that wisdom we can all innately connect to if we so choose“, agreed but so is every moment an equal opportunity to re-connect to the wisdom that is alive within us all.

  12. “I could feel how the impact of holding back affects the cycles of our lives as we are contracting and restricting the natural rhythm of our body – which is to expand”. Incredible isn’t it that we live in a world that is constantly expanding and that our world exists within a universe that is also constantly expanding and then there’s us, holding onto life as we know it, with such intensity that our knuckles have turned white!

    1. No wonder we have a plague of exhaustion currently as the effort it takes to remain contracted in the face of the constant expansion available to us is totally draining.

      1. Absolutely Helen, it’s easy to see why we’re all so worn out, when you consider the amount of effort required to constantly resist our own evolution and that’s before we’ve actually done anything else.

      2. And yet we can all feel that resistance to totally surrender to our sacredness as women and let go of the struggle we have lived in for far too long.

  13. Susan in reading the things that you have identified yourself as, ‘mother, wife, sister, daughter’ and knowing that I too have identified and still do to a certain extent with these classifications , I can feel how identification of any kind segregates us from our true nature, which is absolute Oneness with God.

  14. “I have been following a now too familiar pattern of doing things my way and also not being fully committed to myself and humanity.“
    It’s funny how “my way” often has a detrimental affect on ourselves and others. So is it really “my way?” If it disregards myself? Who’s way is it really? And is our way truly as hard and stern as the “my way”?

    1. A very telling and pertinent question Leigh. ‘My way’ now feels as though it’s me being stubborn and having no connection to my soul. It feels exclusive and debilitating and undermines our very essence.

      1. I am really appreciating how ‘my way’ actually stands out the more I surrender to the rhythm of life we live within and it has been very empowering to know we are part and parcel of larger rhythm that will have us on the front foot and fully engaged rather than the back foot and living as a shadow of ourselves.

      2. And why would we not live ‘on the front foot and fully engaged’ – it feels like we have been living a huge denigration of our true purpose in life – that being bringing our all to the all and living the divinity that we innately are.

    1. And the more we can celebrate our menopause rather than submitting to what is so often considered to be the run down towards the completing of our lives the greater our reflection and with this the cutting of an age old myth.

  15. “Menopause is an amazing opportunity to deeply connect to that wisdom we can all innately connect to if we so choose.” So true. Women sometimes give up on themselves after menopause, thinking their mothering and ‘usefulness’ days are over. However I love your last line “Is it a time to withdraw from life, or to celebrate the awesomeness we are as women?” Celebrate definitely and continue to serve the world with the wisdom we can offer.

    1. Yes, Sue and as each of us celebrate we bring a sense of empowerment back to women worldwide, It feels so important to appreciate each step we take however seemingly minute which can sometimes be a trick to keep us small.

  16. ‘What is the menopause all about? Is it a time to withdraw from life, or to celebrate the awesomeness we are as women?’ No doubt about it that it is a time where we can celebrate the wise women in ourselves and share her with the world, the power is in our long lived experiences and our observational way of living and sharing it openly with the world.

    1. Yes, it feels beautiful to embrace this time and to return to living in a way where we appreciate our own lived wisdom and grace, and realise this as an opportunity to continue engaging with the world until our last breath.

  17. Great questions Susan, I’ve had my eyes open these last few years with how I see the menopause, something to dread or avoid (not possible of course) to a place where I can now welcome it when it comes as a new phase for me in life, one which brings a richness and an observational quality of how we can be in life and yet not attached to it. I’m looking forward to it.

    1. As you say Monica, there is no way we can avoid it so why not allow ourselves to embrace it and see as a time to consolidate all the countless messages that our body offers us as a way to return once again to our innate sacredness. We seem to have been living in a way that is disconnected to our body and only allowing of ourselves to see the negative. It has been a life changer for me to see whatever life presents as an opportunity to change ingrained patterns that have been serving the force that is taking us further away from our inborn and natural capacity to live life fully and whole-heartedly.

  18. Thank you Susan, I could very much relate to the roles we can identify with as women, daughter, wife, sister etc and that although I may still be those things now I’m actually divine. I relate to myself now as a soul, as a divine part of God with an amazing essence that’s there to express in its fullness everyday. It’s such a beautiful way to live, to be in connection to my inner divinity, to know and feel it, and express all that this means as a woman. Thank you Susan – yes, in every stage of the life cycle of a woman, we can cherish and celebrate ourselves and each other.

    1. As you say Melinda we are – and have always been divine but somehow lost our divine expression of our sacredness and beauty. As we fully embrace nurturing and cherishing ourselves I can feel the barriers melt as I let go of all outside impediments and surrender.

  19. Menopause can be the gentle transition of becoming aware of your elder energy and connection to the wider family of humanity with whom to share the wisdom of your years.

    1. When we embrace each stage of our lives as you have reflected Mary we can then feel the true purpose and not see menopause as a hindrance but a natural and unfolding part of ageing.

  20. What is the menopause all about? Is it a time to withdraw from life, or to celebrate the awesomeness we are as women?
    I go for the awesomeness. I can feel the next fase of my life waiting. I feel a deeper truth rising to the horizon of wisdom we can deliver just by the experience we bring with us. It feels beautiful and powerful.

    1. Menopause is so very honouring of ourselves as women – and the perception of life coming to an end for women is once again negating all that we can offer the world when we accept our sacredness. We never stop learning about our bodies – the unfolding is ongoing to the last minute, and I am realising that for me personally I have found a greater understanding of the wisdom of my body in my seventies that I ever had when I was in my forties.

      1. Saying life ends at menopause says we are only worth our reproductive abilities which is horrible. Thank you Susan and all the other ladies who are knocking this perception out.

      2. As you say Leigh it is ‘horrible’ and very limiting to not only ourselves but to all other men and women, as when we honour the essence of who we are we are bringing a greater openness and transparency to the way we live our lives.

  21. I love to return to this blog Susan, and I love the invitation you offer at the end for all us women to celebrate our amazingness, now that feels the way forward.

  22. ‘Menopause feels like a time of amazing opportunities to expand our lives even further and to confirm and consolidate all that we are learning.’ Instead of feeling that we are ‘on the shelf’ and ‘passed it’ – how lovely to hear of something more, something to look forward to !

    1. As with all of life it is our understanding and perception of what we are being offered that affects how we meet life and what if offers. If one chooses to see menopause as the end then that is what it will become – if you are open to what is being offered in this great and glorious time of change and movement, then you will be able to appreciate the full beauty of what is taking place within and the delicacy and preciousness that is disclosed.

      1. As is every opportunity that pours down on each of us from heaven – heaven sends us cycles – a return ticket back home.

  23. “I had no concept of how it would be to live life without the recognition of being needed.” I used to need to be needed and would squeeze my way into other people’s business just so I could be the one to help them sort it out. I’m almost speechless with the arrogance I now can feel and see I was operating under. Not only was I setting myself up as the saviour, I was effectively belittling the other person by implying there was something wrong with them! Glad to say I don’t do this anymore. I support when asked but no longer stick my nose into other people’s business.

  24. Beautiful to feel how you are re-imprinting what it means to be a menopausal woman Susan which is so needed in a current youth obsessed society where the wisdom of our elders is so often dismissed. Connecting to our purpose at any age is transformational and as we enter a new cycle it is glorious to have the reflections of those who are already there and shining their light for all to see.

    1. Becoming aware of the cycles and allowing ourselves to feel their transformational effect expands our understanding and offers a space where we are more aware of the true purpose of going around and around. We no longer feel adrift in the world and can feel a greater pull towards unfolding and becoming more open to a greater wisdom within that is forever informing us of a truer way to live life – we begin to return to our long ago lived wisdom that is calling us to live a way of life that once we knew.

  25. How gorgeous to come to a place where you are no longer restricted by the ideals and beliefs of the past and are able to break away from what you have identified with to now connect to who you innately are and surrender to the beauty of you in your essence and your natural expression of that as you now move through life. The world needs more women in their beauty and power like this, bringing a much needed wisdom to the world.

    1. As we allow more space to truly be we no longer have the same need to hang on to ideals and beliefs that disempower us and erode our very essence and thereby disconnect us from our sacredness.

  26. I love how you have described menopause as a rebirth/reincarnation Susan. This goes against every picture we have been fed of the ‘use by date’ that women seemingly reach when their bodies are no longer capable of producing babies and re-instils instead the absolute knowing in us all that during this process the true wisdom of the elder is birthed forth into full expression if one so chooses to embrace all that is on offer.

    1. Yes, Liane – it does come from an ‘the absolute knowing in us all that during this process the true wisdom of the elder is birthed forth into full expression if one so chooses to embrace all that is on offer’. Acceptance allows us to let go of any old ideals and beliefs and begin anew to feel our true power, and fully embrace our place in society and be of service to humanity with humility and grace.

  27. I actually really love your age statistics at the end of this article Sue. Menopause is treated as such a small and insignificant part of a woman’s life and it seems like it makes up on a tiny part of it, but as you’ve shared for decades women are in menopause or post menopause so we have an amazing opportunity to develop a connection to other cycles than our menstrual cycle, such as the moon cycle’.

    1. Yes, Susie – that is what I felt when I wrote these words – that we don’t truly appreciate the time and space we have been given as women to deepen and expand all that we take with us into the menopause. As we learn to value this time more it will allow others to feel and see that menopause is not something to be discounted but a time to honour and define all that we are able to offer the world by way of our divine reflection.

  28. You are an absolute inspiration Susan, showing humanity that you are never too old to embark on a journey of true self discovery. it was your seventieth birthday yesterday and you are looking younger every year, breaking down the misconceptions around aging being ‘the end of our world’

    1. Aah, yes, we have all been fooling ourselves for too long with that one – that ageing is ‘‘the end of our world’ – and how far away from the truth of reality is that? The more I pondered on reincarnation the more it made sense of the endless circles that we supposedly were committed to – until I realised that there is work to do and I do have a choice of not keep repeating the same patterns. When we allow life to unfold we begin to let go of control and allow life to come back to it’s natural rhythm and make space for us to expand and explore a whole new meaning of the life lived until we no longer return…….

  29. It is very empowering to know your worth as a woman without needing to be needed. The crumbs of recognition as a mother, partner, daughter etc are nothing compared ti the vast wisdom and beauty that is waiting within us.

  30. Thank you Susan for bringing truth and light to menopause and what it offers us as women. For many years if I even thought of menopause I would feel anxious and completely dread it coming. I thought my life would be over, I would be unattractive and no-one would find me interesting. Isn’t it interesting the amount of angst there is in the world among women of all ages about menopause? That was until I listened to Women in Livingness presentations and read real life experiences of menopause similar to this one. My whole view and feel of menopause and what it means has changed massively and I now see it as another amazing unfolding of being a woman and what that offers the world.

    1. Although I did not have too much angst about the menopause and only saw that it would be relief from the interminable period pains I can now see how much I was not seeing the true wonder that we as women can embrace if we connect to these cycles and allow ourselves to connect to the wisdom of our body. Instead of seeking relief from the period pains I could have gained enormous insight into how I was driving myself in a way that was almost totally dishonouring of my body, and the innate tenderness and delicacy that is our natural way of being – a way of living where we can reflect to the world our divinity and sacredness. As I learn to live life in a very different way as I age I am beginning to re-connect and begin a relationship with all that my body offers me – to let go of the old patterns and return to the innately tender and sweet woman that I am in my essence.

      1. And what a gorgeously powerful reflection that is Susan for women your age and younger women seeing what it is like to live as a claimed and connected elder.

      2. I am realising how much we have to offer as elders. For so long in Western society women have seen their last stage of life as a time to give up and indulge in comfort. With so many beautiful reflections to support me, I am realising that the elder years are a time when we can share our experience and understanding with others, and prepare ourselves for our passing over in a way that is evolving and is a celebration of the life lived.

  31. I agree Susan appreciating ourselves and what we have to bring is of great importance for this grows our acceptance of ourselves and allows us to deepen our connection to our essence and from this connection comes timeless wisdom. We only need to prepare the way by getting out of the way, if you know what I mean.

    1. Yes I know what you mean Kathleen we so often get in the way and miss the true way for our way forward. It is about which way we choose ; ‘our way’ or ‘the way’.

      1. Yes, we have been captured by an illusion – that in order to become accepted we have to be forceful and push ourselves when in truth we just need to be and allow ‘the way’ to unfold.

  32. It is truly amazing to feel the power that is naturally within but to live it is what inspires me to attend Universal Medicine. To have the reflection of the beautiful, amazing women in my life is incredibly supportive leading the way to what it means to live as a true woman in the world today.

    1. I totally agree – it is the reflection of other women and feeling their grace and tenderness that allows me to feel the possibility of connecting to that part of myself in my essence. As we begin the process we can gradually feel that this is true and that deep within lays a part of us that is untainted.

  33. The cycle of menopause is a very special period in a woman’s life, in so much that it is a time that we can fully embrace our self as the mature women we are with loads of lived experience that is on offer to those who wish to have the support of an elder.

    1. What you say is so true Mary-Louise – It feels awesome to appreciate all that we have to offer and to enjoy being a resource when we are asked – and when not asked to understand that we all have our own chosen path in this, and in each and every other life.

    2. And oh how supportive I have found talking with an elder who fully knows themselves. They have supported me to put so much of what I see as wrong or needing improvement into perspective.

  34. It was lovely to re-read this blog Susan. It is an interesting point that you make about just how long we can end up living as a post menopausal woman. When I broke it down I realized that we are young girls for a short period of time, say 14/ 16 years and then we are a young woman for another 30/35 years until we are menopausal. All in all there is not that much time spent as a girl or as a young woman, and then there is the rest of our life as a postmenopausal woman; if we live, as you say, to about 85! As elder women we can truly celebrate this time in life by deepening our connection to ourselves and to the wisdom within that ultimately connects us to everyone.

    1. It’s so lovely what you say Kathleen. I am finding that the more I appreciate being an elder, the more I value this time in my life when I can stop and take stock both of how I live and how we as a humanity are living. As you say it’s a beautiful time to connect to ourselves and to value all we can bring into everyone’s life as we allow ourselves a freedom to express and explore.

  35. Having women role models like you are is very supportive. I am 33 and you could say I am in the prime of my life but I am not so sure this is true. This article is the perfect example that maybe life as a women doesn’t have to be what is mapped out for us, maybe we don’t have a peak in the middle but rather, each day we just keep expanding, deepening and developing, when we look at life like this there is nothing to fear but rather something to look forward to.

    1. Yes, Sarah that is how I feel too – a life lived fully is a life lived to the full in every moment. One of the many blessings that I have had in this life is that I have embraced each decade as age did not feel like a barrier. Yes, my body is less able than it was when I was young, but my heart feels the same. I feel we are at our ‘prime’ in every age as with each age there comes a new lesson and a deepening of our understanding and self appreciation of our place in the Universe.

  36. Having read several blogs on this site written by women who are post-menopausal I have no doubt this is a time of life that has the potential for great wisdom and clarity, a truly focused purpose without drive, a new depth of love of self and humanity, and greater union with the body and deep surrender… and no doubt so much more. I am 3 years in to my own post-menopausal journey and I’m loving it – and looking forward to the more that is to come. It truly does offer us an opportunity for re-birth in our own lifetime.

    1. What you say is so true Victoria, ‘this is a time of life that has the potential for great wisdom and clarity, a truly focused purpose without drive, a new depth of love of self and humanity, and greater union with the body and deep surrender… and no doubt so much more’ and this is all available depending on our choices as we evolve and embrace more of our true essence. As we learn to accept more responsibility, realising that responsibility is a step that enhances and deepens our true connection within, we feel the expansion as we let go of the need to do and find the space to be. There is also a great beauty in the steadiness as our body settles into a natural rhythm of acceptance and appreciation.

  37. ‘I feel the tenderness and delicacy of their reflection, and this allows me to connect to that same feeling within.’ This deceptively simple statement is utterly ground-breaking. Our usual way when around other women is to go straight into comparison and, potentially, envy and jealously. Feeling inspired by the women in your group instead is divinely radical move, Susan. Thank you for sharing.

  38. Beautiful to read your blog Susan, I love your words ‘I am now at a place where I have become more confident in who I am and I feel a beautiful woman in my own right.’ Amazing how taking responsibility for our choices changes our life.

    1. The awesome thing is that the more responsibility we allow ourselves to enjoy and embrace the greater our sense of self and expansion becomes. It’s as though we have found the key to life – and it doesn’t only unlock one door but opens us up to all the wisdom of the Universe – which in itself is forever expanding as we feel the power of love descending and available. We are being given the world and all we need to do is to be – love comes with simplicity and grace and is forever within our power to access.

  39. Wow that feeling of appreciating you have so much to offer the world and that life is not coming to an end but just beginning, that is amazing. I know that feeling but also appreciate it needs to be nurtured with constant daily choices.

    1. And the awesome thing is that the greater and deeper the appreciation the more of our true self we can feel. As we grow older we learn more acceptance and grace as we begin to prepare for our next life – there is truly ‘no end’ just a continual expansion and a deeper embracing of all that we are.

  40. I agree Susan, menopause is certainly a time to celebrate our awesomeness. I love all that menopause has brought me, the wisdom, the liberation, the letting go of the need to mother . . . even though like you I also . . . “had no concept of how it would be to live life without the recognition of being needed.” I feel free now to be the universal mother or universal grandmother and hold all in love, deeply and equally so.

    1. That is so beautiful Kathleen – it is a great freedom when we let go of the need to be a mother and to allow our offspring to express their own particular and unique way of being in the world. What an awesome reflection when you can ‘feel free now to be the universal mother or universal grandmother and hold all in love, deeply and equally so’ and this is true brotherhood and with it we get to feel the place that each person can play in our life when we live life as one family and allow everyone the same access to our very essence.

  41. Susan I love the questions you pose at the end of your blog, and the fact that you can say your life has been amazing since going through menopause is so inspiring. Reading blogs like this really help me to see how menopause is a natural part of the cycle of being a woman and is to be embraced and welcomed. When we are open to the possibilities, who knows what is around the corner.

    1. Yes, it feels like it is the opening and willingness that is the key, especially when it feels like we as women have lived so very long locked up in our own mental world for fear of voicing our true value in society. When we allow the world to see us as we truly are and simply that without any sense of being on a crusade, we are allowing our true inner beauty and power to emerge – a power that comes from connecting to our innate cycles that are taking place throughout our lives. When we honour these cycles we know that we are much greater and grander than our life on this planet and that our sense of purpose is to connect to our sacredness and in this way support humanity as a whole.

  42. “I felt discarded and where: I had no concept of how it would be to live life without the recognition of being needed.”
    This is a great point you are addressing here Susan, as it shows us how much we as women in our society today neglect to connect with our self-worth and preciousness and appreciate ourselves in that.

    1. Yes Judith – it’s an interesting feeling to re-connect to – I feel I now no longer seek to be recognised in an obvious way and yet there are still subtle ways that this feeling will again emerge – the deeper we go with our feelings the more understanding we gain and the greater the insight and understanding we have of ourselves and of humanity. The more aware we become of our preciousness and fragility and connect to that the more we honour our bodies and offer inspiration and a reflection to others.

    2. When our children don’t need us anymore, perhaps other areas of our lives also move on and ‘need’ us less we start to become aware of how much we have needed to be needed and that is hugely confronting. Clearly we cannot make others need us, clearly it is vital we look to build self worth from the inside out – building who we are way away from what we do, have offered or where we have been needed.

  43. Susan I am approaching menopause and observing the changes that are happening in my body. With articles such as this they have really assisted me in the way that I see this phase if my life and how I will move through it. The changes are slight, but they are changes nevertheless and in all honesty it’s actually lovely to feel that my body is moving to a new phase.

    1. How beautiful that you are approaching menopause with so much awareness Jennifer, where you can appreciate all that we as women are offered throughout our lives. I came from a culture where women treated their body in a way that was very functional and totally disregarding of the delicate and tender messages that we begin to feel as we connect more deeply. I am beginning to feel as I let go of old ideas and beliefs that are held in my body that I am willing to embrace the whole of life as part of the greater whole which I now realise I come from.

    1. So true Luke and yet this is not what society reflects back to us. It is therefore about us, as women to take responsibility for what has thus far been accepted and to choose a different way to evolve and to deepen our sacredness. As we learn to claim our truth and to live that daily it will offer support to the world.

      1. Now that is certainly a new approach to menopause Luke – to have fun and expand our experiences……..when we allow ourselves to see everything in a new light we realise that our body is tenderly and delicately supporting us to return to our natural innate rhythm – a rhythm that is shared by the whole universe. When we feel this amazingness we can truly enjoy life and embrace fully our cycles.

  44. Thank you Susan for bringing a true understanding to what menopause is. It is very much needed and the support provided by these groups is infinite to of all us with proof by reading your new life.

    1. Having read your comment Rik I was prompted to read the blog – and it was amazing to realise that as each year passes the rhythm of expansions continues and the understanding deepens, which as you say is greatly supported by group work. Each step we take we are offered moments to evolve and let go of the past and to allow ourselves to embrace the greater wisdom offered by the Universe.

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