Why does it feel like we have to attain beauty and we are not beautiful until it has been gained or purchased?
Why isn’t anyone telling us that we are already truly beautiful and amazing?
Why are we not supported to seek forms of expression that confirm our beauty?
I have started to observe a pattern of how we have been side tracked to express our beauty via the misrepresentations of outside influences. Magazines, music, pop stars, movie characters and story lines, movie stars and self-help programmes all influence and suggest how to dress, wear make-up, what to say, how to say it, our attitudes – even our postures and gestural movements.
I can see how easy it is to follow these paths because they partly satiate the natural desire and yearning we innately feel to express our beauty to the world; express the uniqueness of who we truly are. However, these expressions when influenced in this way are short-lived and are usually followed by a hollow, empty feeling, leaving us to chase the next model, emulation or style instruction in the hope it will fulfil the emptiness and yearning.
I’ve observed that there is an innate yearning to express our own exquisite beauty, a yearning that is naturally there from very young and which refuses to go away.
As a result of feeling this yearning we continually seek ways to express this beauty that is actually lying dormant waiting to be connected with. However, as we have matured into women it is often the case that we have connected instead to the misleading outside representations, leaving the yearning for the true expression of beauty unsatiated.
This pursuit to feel our beauty via a continual outward search for its expression, leads to perpetual feelings of letdowns, emptiness and lack of fulfilment, because the experiences never connect us to expressing our true beauty. These feelings can lead to low self-esteem and believing we are not good enough.
How fortunate and lucrative it is for media industries who continue to offer and sell beauty solutions to women in their pursuit of searching to express their beauty; all of which only relieves the yearning and leaves a woman feeling unsatisfied and in search of the next solution. This ongoing cycle leads to massive consumption of products and fix-it solutions, all being fed to women like a pimp or a drug dealer.
What would be more truthful would be to sell and purchase products as a means to CONFIRM a woman’s beauty, to outwardly express her inner exquisiteness. Products that nurture an already knowing and awareness – that beauty is a woman’s unique essence.
Instead, as it stands, society is all-pervasive in its many ways of selling women the idea that beauty is derived from obtaining things from the outside, which amounts to nothing more than the biggest selling scam ever to hit the earth!
How wonderful to instead come to a realisation that; rather than CHASING society’s ideals of beauty, we simply engage with products and services to EXPRESS our already known beauty which is lying inside, waiting to be connected with.
Let us instead reconnect to the true essence of beauty, to our acceptance of our own unique inner beauty. And let us know to our core that when it is THIS that is expressed it is the most awe-inspiring, truly sexy wow-factor that has ever hit the earth –
Like walking our own cat-walk each and every moment in each and every day.
By Gina Dunlop, Australia
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