Real Beauty – The True Beauty from Within

By Georgina, Brisbane, Australia

Last week I attended an Esoteric Women’s presentation in Brisbane. The topic for the day was beauty. It soon became clear from discussions that society’s and women’s initial definition of beauty was literally only skin deep – our beauty appeared to be defined by how we look – by how we appeared on the outside rather than how we appear from within.

The presenters Jenny Ellis and Mary Louise Myers began the presentation with some statistics collated as part of the Dove campaign for real beauty. One of the statistics that I cannot forget stated only 4% of women perceive themselves as beautiful. To further demonstrate this point, Mary Louise described a video Dove produced. The video showed a forensic artist who sat one side of a curtain and a woman sitting on the other side. The woman described herself and the artist drew her. The woman left the room and a friend then came and sat on the other side of the curtain. This lady then described her friend.

The two paintings of the same woman were placed up on the wall and the woman came and looked at them and wept. The two paintings were very different: the one she had described was quite unattractive and hard, the other painting described by her friend was soft and beautiful.

I saw this video a few months ago and a friend just happened to call me within a few minutes of watching it. We are studying together and were about to start an internship. We started talking about our upcoming practicum and my friend started really crying; she described herself as being incapable, unable to do the job, how she was going to let everyone down, she was no good and she was going to fail.

I paused and replied whilst she was still crying; I explained the video I had just watched – how a woman sees herself and how others perceive her. I gently told her that everything she had just described about herself was not how I saw her at all: what I saw was a beautiful woman who was deeply eloquent, nurturing, committed, caring, with a natural ability to impart her knowledge and wisdom and to inspire – and gifted at connecting with others. To me this friend was going to become an amazing teacher; her nature and the essence of who she uniquely is were going to produce a teacher the world could only but benefit from.

My friend now started sobbing; could it be possible she too was able to connect to her true beauty seen by another and the upset that followed was a combination of relief and the pain felt at the realisation of how hard she had been on herself? By this stage I had started crying too – because what I had said was just as relevant to myself.

This video and incident clearly demonstrates what the group later felt and discovered in the women’s presentation – our beauty lies inside us; it is the unique essence of who we are. It then manifests out – everything simply becoming an outward expression of the inner beauty of who we are – our clothes, how we walk, how we talk, how we laugh, our make-up – all of these are expressions of our beauty-full self. We appear outwardly beauty-full because we are expressing our inner beauty.

In a society which directs us to ‘achieve’ or reach out for beauty from the outside and implies beauty is only the outward appearance, it is very hard to miss this simple connection. It can be easy to feel not good enough. But what this presentation gifted to me was the true connection to who I really am and the delight and joy and lightness of what that felt like. It was natural and easy – and was just sitting there waiting to be discovered. Wow! How empowering. And to sit in a room with 100 other women feeling the same joy and adulation of themselves was amazing.

My energies and efforts now focus on cherishing that beauty and honouring that beauty. It’s not easy when there are a million distractions each day persuading me otherwise and I don’t profess to be perfect in my expression – far from it. But I accept my beauty (that is, me and the essence of who I am) is enough to make sure I don’t stray too far from it. And I openly enjoy, appreciate and nurture the inner essence of all women I interact with, so they too get a chance to feel and appreciate their own lovely essence and beauty of who they are. Soon, they too may then get the opportunity to realise that this is real beauty, beauty from within – the knowing and expressing in celebration of who we really are.

151 thoughts on “Real Beauty – The True Beauty from Within

  1. “our beauty lies inside us; it is the unique essence of who we are. It then manifests out – everything simply becoming an outward expression of the inner beauty of who we are” A message that should shine out above every makeup counter.

  2. The more we deepen in our connection to our essence and know the love we are within, the more we can feel that our beauty within is far grander than any picture that we are imposed upon to measure ourselves up to.

  3. It is truly tragic that from young we are taught to look outside ourselves to become something we are not, an image of perceived beauty that pushes us to be more and not appreciate the innate and beautiful qualities we already have and hold, and that are waiting to be connected to within our essence.

  4. These thoughts are what we are taught as we grow up often without realising it. These thoughts are also very damaging and incapacitating of your perception of your ability to be you in life. What’s more damaging still is that these thoughts take hold and actually convince us that we are them!

  5. This is so true, simply by connecting to our essence, and living from this inner-beauty, ‘We appear outwardly beauty-full because we are expressing our inner beauty.’

  6. If we were but taught from a young age that our true beauty emanates from deep within us and if this was the reflection we received from those around us, I feel that self-worth issues among women would be greatly reduced and that beauty products would not be such a lucrative industry that it is today.

  7. So often we harden because we take on so much in life and start pushing ourselves to get everything done not realising how our body hardens and we end up moving and treating ourselves with a hardness and judgement that is not a real reflection of our true nature and who we are within. When we are inspired to be more gentle with ourselves and connect more deeply with our body we find a truly delicate and tender beauty just buried beneath the outer hardness which emerges the more we allow it to come out and express our true selves.

  8. How lovely to feel, nurture and cherish the inner beauty you are now aware of, ‘what this presentation gifted to me was the true connection to who I really am and the delight and joy and lightness of what that felt like.’

  9. We are all beautiful inside, ‘our beauty lies inside us; it is the unique essence of who we are. It then manifests out – everything simply becoming an outward expression of the inner beauty of who we are’, yes, very much so.

  10. As I consider the women in my life, beautiful qualities come to me about all of them. I have seen them in all their beauty. And it is pretty unearthing to see that I don’t see myself this way. I don’t appreciate myself to the depth that I know is possible – which is a big block in me then deepening my appreciation for others.

  11. Beauty from inside, the radiates out…this is the true beauty within us all and not specific to looks but a way fo being and feeling this shines out, it emanates…and inspires.

  12. ‘We appear outwardly beauty-full because we are expressing our inner beauty.’ This is gorgeous and so true. As women express more of their true essence I see women looking younger and more beautiful even as they get older in years.

  13. The denial of our inner-beauty is universal, instead subscribing to the ideals society decides is the ‘look’ of the age. At every turn we are told how to be, how to look, what is sexy, what is beautiful, what is smart, what is successful. Beginning to break this down and re-connect to our innate beauty is something that invariably invokes tears for we miss this most divine part of ourselves terribly… it is the emptiness we use a myriad of ways to cover, fill, avoid, push down. Re-claiming the essence of who we are is the only true way out for us, thanks Georgina for sharing so honestly exactly that.

  14. “We appear outwardly beauty-full because we are expressing our inner beauty.” . . . this I know to be a fact as I have been blown away by the beauty of people who dare to be themselves in full. It is like they grow on you and you could swear that they were the most beautiful man/woman you have ever met.

  15. “what I had said was just as relevant to myself.” Very often when I am expressing a truth with another I realise that it is an equal truth for me.

  16. Thank you Georgina for the way you have transformed my understanding of beauty and the way we have been influenced to regard it: ‘this is real beauty, beauty from within – the knowing and expressing in celebration of who we really are.’

  17. I found that ad really interesting to watch- I think that all women can relate to it. So often we see and focus on our flaws instead of appreciating and valuing our beauty. I realise as a woman how important it is for me to do this so that I can inspire younger women to also know their own beauty not see role models who are hard on themselves.

    1. So true MW… I have never focussed on my ‘inner beauty’, not until coming across Esoteric Women’s Health anyway… I wouldn’t have even known what you were talking about. My ‘beauty’ was purely based on how attractive I thought I was to men… my hair, skin, body, sexiness… all outer measures, and none a true reflection of my essence as I know it now. Today I feel far more beautiful than I ever did as a younger woman, and have zero concern whether anybody else finds me that way or not.

  18. How beautiful it would be if girls were taught that to be a true woman is simply staying connected to our essence, and living from that essence, that would be enough to wipe out every single magazine that portrays that women have to look a certain way to be beautiful, when a woman reflects her own beauty from the inside out, there is nothing more beautiful or divine.

    1. Yes what a different society that will be Sally… it is coming, we cannot continue to manipulate and torture ourselves as women to be something that lourdes our outer assets at the expense of our inner ones.

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