Sometimes we speak but we are not heard.
Sometimes we are made to feel like what we are expressing is not of importance.
When this occurs it leaves us feeling like we should have not said anything at all and should have remained in silence. I feel that as women we have all done this to some level and it is the silence of not speaking our truth that really hurts us deep inside.
This silencing of ourselves is a form of abuse. It hurts us and it also hurts those around us.
The fact that we are choosing to not say anything even though deep inside we are screaming, or even feeling completely lost and cannot begin to find the words to express what we are feeling, is so painful. I have often observed my daughter and how she can get all worked up and have a tantrum, but when I allow her the time and space and I am completely present with her, as in I sit down and give her my full attention and listen, she feels heard; she is given the chance to tell me about what is troubling her and a sense of calmness comes over her.
Recently at school she was playing Truth or Dare, even though it is banned at school, and she came home with a letter from her principal. She was devastated as she had never been in trouble at school before. After we spoke about it, and she cried, I suggested that she write a letter to her principal and express how she was feeling.
It was beautiful to watch my nine year old sit and write for about an hour – she took responsibility, expressed how she had followed others even though it didn’t feel right, that she didn’t want to be a ‘tell taler’, and how she was sorry. After writing, I asked her how she felt and her response was: “I feel so much lighter and I am not angry or sad anymore”.
Wouldn’t it be great if we as women treated ourselves like a 9 year old and gave ourselves the space to either write, or express in conversations, some of those old feelings that we are holding deep down inside; the ones that have been there for way too long, eating away at our insides, or are just an extra weight that we no longer need to carry with us.
Inspired by Serge Benhayon and one of his many quotes: “Expression is Everything”