Standing by Me and Inspiring My Colleagues at Work

by Rebecca Turner, Age 44, London UK

I love my job. I work as a beauty advisor in a busy, well-respected health and beauty store in the centre of London. It is an incredible and great learning ground for me.

Every interaction shows me something, and can either energize me or drain me. 

This has been shown to me recently in a very clear way since attending one of the Esoteric Women’s Groups hosted by Sara Williams in London. The question was put to us “What is in the Way?”. The question in this context meant:

What is in the way of us being the beautiful amazing women that we naturally are?

I shared in my group that I often feel despondent and resentful that the store where I work has become very lenient towards customers regarding a certain policy, and that when I join in with this lenience I don’t feel good about myself, or the situation at all. As well as not feeling good about myself I am aware that this lenience does not serve the customers either, in that they are left to believe that they can do whatever they like without feeling and recognizing the consequences of their actions and choices.

The policy is there for a very good reason. I have tried in the past to enforce this policy, but this is only met with more force coming back at me, which results in a fight. I have also tried saying it apologetically, which doesn’t work either, as then I am already holding myself as less than them and handing them all the power. And I have tried doing nothing at all and blaming the company for being lenient and pretending to myself that there is nothing I can do.

After attending the Esoteric Women’s Group

I was feeling more of my inner beauty and amazingness, and felt particularly graceful at work the next day. I was able to meet customers with that grace, and when presented with moments where said policy was required I found myself meeting the customer as an equal, looking them straight in the eyes, and lovingly and gracefully stating the policy without any guilt, apology or defensiveness. The result was that the customers, although obviously upset, accepted what I was saying, and left the situation without a fight and without questioning.

After these interactions I could feel a gentle but strong sense of self and a warm flow of energy throughout my body and yes, I did feel very good about myself… though not pumped up in victory, just a sense that I had simply done the true thing. Very different to the drained and resentful feeling of previous encounters which left me feeling empty and with a sense of wanting to give up.

So how did this affect my working environment?

Well, later on in the day I observed one of my colleagues do exactly the same thing. She had watched me deal with a few customers earlier on, and mirrored my approach and experienced the same results.

From this I can feel that it is possible to boost staff morale and the energy of the working environment, simply by standing for what is true by feeling what is right for me and then acting on it – not in a forceful way, but in a gentle and loving way.

By standing by myself with this love I am able to feel more of my amazing beauty, and inspire others to do the same.

This is not about demonising or demoralising customers! This is about meeting people with truth, allowing them to feel the reality of this, and giving them an opportunity to take responsibility for themselves. If I play it small and let things slide then what is the knock-on effect for everyone around me?… Probably a world where everyone remains small and is nowhere near experiencing their own inner beauty.

The Esoteric Women’s Groups constantly inspire me to be more of who I am, thereby giving others an opportunity to be inspired by me. Isn’t this how we can change the world?!

364 thoughts on “Standing by Me and Inspiring My Colleagues at Work

  1. “This is about meeting people with truth, allowing them to feel the reality of this, and giving them an opportunity to take responsibility for themselves.” What a great foundation for all relationships. I am not a big fan of the belief in business that “customers come first”, how about “love and truth come first for all equally” instead.

  2. We get told to exercise and eat healthy but its not so well known that if we don’t stand up for what we know is true then this too effects our health and emotional state in many negative ways.

  3. Delivering the truth of who I am in whatever way to be expressed is certainly a work in progress for me however there are moments in my life now where there is joy to be had by all. Expressing truth is not a fight, creating an argument or trying to be one up on another but simply delivering what is there to be said from the body and that includes appreciation and love there is for another. Ultimately our body is a vehicle of expression as Serge Benhayon presents and lives.

  4. When we live in the steadiness and the power of who we are we cannot but offer a reflection that serves to pull others up to live the divine potential of who they are, which is the same within us all. This is a beautiful reminder of how we can all inspire each other to live the greatness of who we are in all it spunk, beauty, wisdom and power. This is indeed how we set standards on living for not only ourselves and for all of us to also feel and be inspired to not settle for anything less.

  5. At my work I have a system (there is many) that I feel is not honouring everyone. It bugs me each week to complete what they are asking. Many others I know have the same feeling. If you do not honour it you stand out on the reports. So .. I agree Rebecca even though it is not honouring of the true quality that is needed, when I respect the system as it is it makes me feel good and actually highlights the true work that I am doing.

  6. We have mastered the habit of being nice but the world we have been left with as a result is very far from being ok. Nice is poisonous overlay that holds back the truth of what we feel.

  7. Beautiful to feel the ripples of your inspiring reflection Rebecca and how you offered your colleague the grace to stand for truth.

  8. Such an inspiring example of how, when we claim a truth and then stand up for it, we begin to reflect this truth to others. We don’t always have to share this truth in words but how we are living and working is what does the inspiring.

  9. When we bring our all to a situation, state the facts without the emotion, without sympathy, it is far more understood and accepted than when we try to water it down, hide what’s really going on, or try to make the other person feel better. This is a blueprint for how all our relationships could be: true, clear, simple – leaving us all feeling revitalised, aware and awake, and strengthened in our sense of self, and connections to others.

  10. This makes complete sense, this is how we can change the world, ‘The Esoteric Women’s Groups constantly inspire me to be more of who I am, thereby giving others an opportunity to be inspired by me. Isn’t this how we can change the world?!

  11. This is gorgeous to read and claim, ‘By standing by myself with this love I am able to feel more of my amazing beauty, and inspire others to do the same.’

  12. ‘By standing by myself with this love I am able to feel more of my amazing beauty, and inspire others to do the same.’ Thank you Rebecca you inspire me to do the same in situations I find not easy to deal with, to not think and think and get anxious but to just stand for what is true and are my values.

  13. This is so true, we are affected by people and their energy, there is always more to understand, ‘Every interaction shows me something, and can either energize me or drain me.’

  14. Brilliant for me to read now as I have a topic that I need to address with a friend and have been wondering how to do this. I realise that I don t have to think about it, there will be an opportunity and all I have to do is stay open, honest and true to myself.

  15. It’s great to come back to this blog. There is a simplicity here that is offered that can get lost in amongst the complications of everyday life and work. Taking a stand in the energy of grace is so powerful, and so inspiring.

  16. How wonderful the work that Esoteric Women’s Health is making through every workshop and presentations as we learn to be more of us and to honour what we feel, instead of bury it. Where else in the world is available all of this?

    1. Absolutely and what this lovely blog reflects is how simple it is put this into practise in our every day life and in doing so inspire others.

  17. Today at work a colleague made a joke about me. I couldn’t understand his humour and I didn’t express him how I felt afterwards, which in truth left me sad. After reading your words Rebecca I feel more ready and steady to speak up if a situation like this repeats. It is my job to claim the respect and decency that we all as human beings deserve and to not accept less than the beauty we all are. Thanks for sharing such a beautiful and inspiring experience.

  18. A beautiful example of what happens when we present the truth to another in a way that they cannot doubt what they have heard; in fact, they would have felt it in their body. You had previously found that if we express with anything less that our full self, others can easily ignore us and continue to act in the disregarding way they have been. What a price-less learning for you Rebecca and for those who read what you have shared.

  19. This is an ongoing learning. It’s so easy to drop into trying to please, both colleagues and customers. We can only remain aware of all the patterns that pull us to be anything other than our integral selves.

    1. So true Rebecca. How revealing remaining aware can be when we are honest with ourselves. If we observe our actions, movements, interactions with others in a loving way we can learn so much. Every moment can be like an open book to be readen. Then life becomes a very enriching experience, which is free of perfection but full of joy and new learnings everyday.

    2. Thanks for your comment Rebecca, I am learning that mastering something once doesn’t mean I have to meet a picture to always be like that, and that it’s ok if I slip back into old patterns, as I can simply see it as an opportunity to work on living my full self more consistently. It’s having purpose and a clear intention to live our full selves without pictures or perfection… always learning!

  20. “… meeting people with truth…” What could be more important than to lovingly state truth? Avoiding responsibility seems to be a national trait – and until someone calls it out it continues.

  21. Great sharing Rebecca and how true is that when we don’t compromise who we are to ‘try’ and keep the peace or make a situation awkward. I have done that my whole life and I too have been inspired to not play these games, to be straight up and not to be trying to prove anything, simply not compromising. Still I have moments when I feel it trying and sneak in and it is great to be able to catch this and say no, I want to be with me.

  22. From this I can feel that it is possible to boost staff morale and the energy of the working environment, simply by standing for what is true by feeling what is right for me and then acting on it – not in a forceful way, but in a gentle and loving way. Absolutely Rebecca, others get inspired when they too can feel how/the way you are expressing or holding yourself with others and even if they don’t say anything at the time, they have definitely clocked it and have it in their body.

  23. Very well done Rebecca. Often we feel afraid to speak our truth, but when we speak our truth in full people know it is the truth, and then they can either comply or resist, but boy o boy does this feel good in our bodies. Another bonus point: The chances people accept the truth because we are not holding back one iota very much increases the chances of acceptance.

  24. Holding our truth, with gentleness and love will be the true revolution concerning women and empowerment, it is beautiful to read how the ripples of this choice where felt within the work place and I know they would not have just stayed there, they are felt everywhere.

    1. Yes.. what is true doesn’t need to be shrieked from the rooftops, in a non-true way… we all know and feel what’s true and what’s not within ourselves, and our job is to hold steady and express it with simplicity, clarity and grace. When we do that, the other person usually gets it. When we contract, hold it back, try to be nice and placate, what was the truth gets distorted by all of these obstacles and gets delivered in a watered down and weak way, becoming not the truth at all – and that’s usually what gets reacted to. It’s then easy to blame the other for ‘reacting’ to what we’ve delivered, rather than looking at how we delivered it.

      1. Looking at life form a point of responsibility, how we are with it rather than looking at others to Blame when things get challenging turns our experience of it upside, a whole different way of approaching what we see as our issues…

  25. The world needs change and people returning to their power. I find it very refreshing when someone honours their feeling whether it is the whole truth of their truth to where they are at. Bring on the change and the return of love and inspiration.

  26. It is a great art and one that wholly deserves our utmost attention to be able to stand in your authoritative truth in a non-imposing and loving way.

  27. I have stood up for what I felt was true but did so from a hardness in my body. Expressing truth as it is is very different to expressing with force, the difference being there is no attachment for another to get it. I do not leave myself but remain steady in my connection and align to that which I know is true. An acceptance of another is held.

  28. This blog shows how responsive we are to each other and how by one person setting a standard we can be inspired to feel empowered to be true to our own standards. This is the magic of the ripple effect of true role models.

  29. “By standing by myself with this love I am able to feel more of my amazing beauty, and inspire others to do the same.” Beautiful to read how through your own love you are able to stand up for truth too, which in turn allows others to accept that truth because it is also known to them.

  30. Rebecca thankyou, to me this is about relationships in general and whether I can be true or not in a loving way, both for myself and others. I like how you shared this as a snapshot of this one experience, yet I can see how it’s transferable to every relationship, no matter the situation. You have given me a lot to ponder on, thank you.

  31. Thank you for sharing how in staying true to you and not compromising you inspired your colleagues at work. This demonstrates how we can offer others the opportunity to see how to handle a potentially tricky situation with grace.

  32. “Simply by standing for what is true by feeling what is right for me and then acting on it, not in a forceful way but upin a gentle and loving way. ” I love this. It is often ‘how’ we talk with someone, the quality we are in, rather than what we say, that can either provoke a reaction that may be hostile, or an acceptance that there is truth in the words we speak.

  33. We’ve all had the experience of when a Teacher is having a bad day or is tired and not really wanting to be there, how the students start acting up and not caring about their school work or respecting the rules in the classroom. I see this at work and within my family all of the time, if I drop from my usual routine and lack purpose, so to does many around me. We are being watched constantly and either are inspiring, confirming and encouraging another to step up and live truth or encouraging to do the opposite and live in comfort and not rock the boat.

  34. It seems that what really gets in the way is us holding back our expression. It feels so great when you feel something and just let it out – be that in words or body actions. Its like releasing a dam, allowing all that is inside you to flow out.

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