Learning to Love Myself Through My Breasts – Discovering the Esoteric Breast Massage

by Luz Helena Hincapie, 35 years, BA Architect, Colombia, South America 

Something changed when I started attending Universal Medicine courses, and in particular, when I heard about the Esoteric Breast Massage (EBM). I remember I felt something unusually special, for some reason I didn’t feel suspicious or think it was strange, I felt I just wanted to find out more, and I did. 

The words mentioned in relation to the Esoteric Breast Massage:

  • Self-nurture
  • Gentleness
  • Self-honor
  • Self-empowerment
  • Self-love

all resonated with something inside of me, something I felt I was deeply longing for.

Because I already felt the integrity in all of Universal Medicine events, Esoteric Breast Massages (EBMs) were something I wanted to give myself the chance to discover. It was a graceful moment! I began the process of connecting back to my breasts, realising and feeling them as an integral part of my body, and they revealed so many things about me and the impact of the way I have been living my life. My numbed body surprisingly started to speak to me.

I couldn’t believe I had been living in my body for so long without realizing how it really felt.

I was surprised to find out how different my left side felt from my right side. I was not aware either, that all of my behaviors, insecurities, fears, and ways of protection could be felt physically, and they all had a manifestation in my body.

MY BREASTS WERE PART OF A MAP OF MYSELF!

They revealed all the motion and raciness in which I’ve been living, and how much in mental activity I have been, depending on what I thought rather than trusting what I felt (trusting myself).

I was a woman in survival mode, abuse and self-neglect.

The true woman was buried somewhere: my sensitivity and tenderness were battered, distorted into emotional dramas, neediness and self-loathing. The woman within was not yet claimed, and I got to feel how I was walking through life as a hurt little girl longing for attention and acceptance. The EBMs were an amazing support in this process of self-discovery and a massive STOP that allowed me to start feeling my body again, providing a willingness to treat it with much more care and gentleness. The EBMs connected me back with a tenderness, a vulnerability and a loveliness to those same qualities within myself. I found so much strength in me as a result.  My anxiousness and fears stopped being overlooked, unwanted and a mystery; they became things that I could feel without reacting to them and that I could honor. This on its own was amazingly empowering and taught me to self-respect again.

Having EBM’s offered me a time of immense growth and supported my re-connection to me.  I learned that all of me was important and I could not ignore any part of me, taking time to feel my body allowed me to catch any emotions which I was running, nominate them and then choose to be more caring and gentle with myself.

This commitment to me has had many turns and twists and I can go through periods of on and off, where there are some days when I catch myself avoiding looking at my breasts in the mirror, or feeling how they are – I do not feel a great regard for myself in those moments; I then can also feel how I am also evading or escaping. I can now see that these are old ways of looking and  judging my breasts as strange, ungraceful pieces of the body. I now know they are a great part of me, they support me in my re-connection back to my body and they reflect back the relationship I have with myself.  I can ignore no part of me, every part of me speaks of my relationship with me.

If I don’t like my breasts, it is more that I don’t really like myself in general.

Because I don’t allow myself to stay in this unnoticed disregard for a very long time, I now enjoy stopping and get to feel the tenderness and loveliness of my breasts again. My resistance to accept them and accept myself stops and I choose to align back to gentleness and self-love, soon after I get to feel an appreciation for my body as it is. And the unfolding continues.

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191 thoughts on “Learning to Love Myself Through My Breasts – Discovering the Esoteric Breast Massage

  1. “The EBMs were an amazing support in this process of self-discovery and a massive STOP that allowed me to start feeling my body again, providing a willingness to treat it with much more care and gentleness.” I have found that the EBMs have reconnected me to the beauty of being a woman.

  2. For a women to reclaim her relationship with her body, particularly her breasts, is incredibly and deeply healing.

  3. “I couldn’t believe I had been living in my body for so long without realizing how it really felt.” . . . I can so relate to this but the conclusion I came to was that I couldn’t feel my body because I wasn’t really in it I was in fact, lost in my head.

  4. The EBMs are an amazing support for us women connecting back to our bodies, our breasts and our delicateness, ‘The EBMs connected me back with a tenderness, a vulnerability and a loveliness to those same qualities within myself. I found so much strength in me as a result.’

  5. I knew that breast massage existed because it had been part of a therapeutic relaxation massage course I had attended, however I did not attend that module of learning because it did not feel right to me to have men massaging my breasts. When I heard that the Esoteric Breast Massage was for women and only offered by women practitioners I felt much more open to this modality and have since had many amazing and very healing experiences receiving the Esoteric Breast Massage. It’s definitely much more than a physical treatment as it has supported me to connect to the essence of myself as a woman, and revealed the layers of protection, etc, I have placed on top of that.

  6. It was during my first Esoteric Breast Massage that I discovered that for most of my life I had been disconnected from my breasts. This shocked me and thankfully resulted in me putting myself on a program to rekindle my connection with these beautiful and tender areas of my womanly body. Since then I have fallen in love with my beasts which is all thanks to this super supportive modality… the Esoteric Breast Massage.

    1. I had felt the same Elizabeth, before the Esoteric Breast Massage my breasts were just something hanging from my body that I was not connected to or gave much thought to. They didn’t really even feel like a part of me. Reconnecting to them has provided much healing for me to address my feelings not just towards my breasts but towards myself as a woman right back to when I was a teenager. I feel for me that being connected to my whole body and loving each part has a big impact on my relationship to myself and how I take care of myself.

  7. It is lovely to read how the EBM’s were such a support in your life, allowing you to feel your body and treat it with much more tenderness, ‘The EBMs connected me back with a tenderness, a vulnerability and a loveliness to those same qualities within myself.’

  8. We can ignore no part of our bodies, each speaks to us if we’re willing to listen. Esoteric Breast Massages are an amazingly supportive tool to allow women to reconnect to feeling how they care for and nurture themselves and a great reminder that we are women first and foremost before anything we do.

  9. This was true for me, and I am still becoming more aware of how it truly feels, ‘I couldn’t believe I had been living in my body for so long without realizing how it really felt.’

  10. Being ok and accepting what I feel is a big one. Accepting all my anxiety and fears etc. Is one side, but in acceptance that knows I experience them but I am not them. This asks me to equally accept that I am very sensitive and lovely and these non-preferred feelings are just a surface covering with no deeper foundation like my loveliness does.

  11. I used to have pretty tense breasts, after many EBM´s and listening to what my breasts were telling me, my breasts feel totally different. It is amazing when we connect to our body and learn from the language that he talks.

  12. Reading your blog actually reminds me that there is always a way to go deeper with my connection to me and my breasts. My relationship changed already immense to my breasts are they are so much more sensitive and part of ME, but did I settle for a plateau with the connection, or is there a deeper way, is the question I am asking myself?

  13. Like you I was so numb in my body that when I had my first few esoteric breast massages I couldn’t stay in and with my body. A few years on I stay connected with me during these massages – and it feels wonderful.

    1. Beautiful to read this transformation Sue, that it is possible to re-establish a connection with our bodies (or, that the connection never goes away, but our ability to stay with what we feel, and be aware of it, develops over time).

  14. So true what you’ve shared here Luz about being able to just be okay with whatever we feel, instead of rejecting and resisting our feelings, which creates a lot of exhausting tension and another layer of stuff to deal with! When we accept what we feel, we are able to observe it much more easily instead of reacting to it in some way, and the feelings feel more ‘out there’ and less within and on top of us: there is space to see them for what they are – just feelings or emotions, additional layers clouding the inner essence of who we truly are – and with that. let go.

  15. How my breast look and feel gives me very well information how i was living that day of week with myself.
    I experienced once by expressing myself in full what I had to say ( from the loving place in my heart) that my breasts was like one size bigger in an hour.
    From feeling a kind of empty in my breasts they became really full,
    This is beautiful confirming the way we live. is it honoring and loving?
    Also my breasts could become full from enegries I was letting in by the way I let my breasts being used for sexual pleasure. As the not honoring way of that gave space to get my breasts fill with that unloving energy.

  16. “I can ignore no part of me, every part of me speaks of my relationship with me.” So true Luz, we cannot love ourselves in parts, and when we do it is a reflection of how we lack a true relationship with ourselves.

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