Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places, Only to Find it Was Already Within Me!

by Sharon Gavioli, Registered Nurse, Birth Educator, Counsellor, Brisbane, Australia

All my life I have had a knowing that life was about people and loving people. Despite this, as a young girl I learned that love meant that I should be good and put others’ needs before my own. This meant working hard to please my parents and friends. Throughout this, I felt a frustration at how I felt I had to be and at times would step out of line, which left me feeling bad that I had let another down. Then I would brush myself off and get back in the game in the pursuit of this love.

In my teenage years, I directed my quest for love in pursuing boys, hoping that a relationship would bring me the elusive love that I hadn’t quite found as a girl. After a few false starts, I found the man whom I was sure was going to bring me the love. Within a year of marriage, I started to feel disappointed and again frustrated that the love wasn’t pouring forth in our relationship. I tried to express this, but in the end decided that maybe having a baby would definitely be a sure winner to finally find that true love that I so longed for.

Having my first baby was an amazing experience and I enjoyed being a mother, but still there was a place in my heart where I felt something was missing. A few babies later and being more entrenched in working harder to feel that I deserved any love, I embarked in my quest to find true love in the New Age movement. 

Over the next 15 years I invested in a number of different courses and books that promised I would find the love. Initially I would get on board and think that I had found the missing link. There was talk of something amazing within us, but no matter how hard I tried I could not connect to it. During the courses, at times I would have feelings of something more than my everyday boredom and numbness. Unfortunately, these feelings were often short lived and I would return to seeking out the next healing or revelation. At this time, my relationship was reaching a crisis point, as I was now just plain angry that my husband had not delivered me the love I had expected him to bring me.

At the age of 48, overweight, unwell and disillusioned about love – and even given up on the seeking for love, as I felt I had failed in my quest – love found me.

No, I didn’t meet a new man! I simply connected to a beautiful feeling within me during the first Esoteric Chakra-puncture session I had with a practitioner from Universal Medicine. This feeling was a sense of steadiness, love and joy, which filled my body and was different from anything I had felt before, yet at the same time felt strangely familiar. It lasted for a number of hours before I got caught up in the usual patterns of my life.

Unlike previous sensations or highs I had experienced in the new age movement that left me feeling deflated after, this feeling left me knowing this is what I had been missing. I made the simple connection to this love that had always been inside of me. My relentless pursuit of finding it outside of me in relationships, babies and new age workshops was what had prevented me from stopping and just allowing myself the space to connect to it.

So I am now committed to developing a connection to this joyful love and steadiness as my everyday experience.  For nearly four years this has been my highest priority. Through my devotion to myself I chose to attend Esoteric Healing sessions and workshops with Universal Medicine. This commitment has enabled me to develop a much greater presence of love for myself and from this, more love for others. This love continues to deepen and has completely transformed how I live my life and how I am with people. Although I am not yet able to consistently hold this love, I know it is always there waiting for me to choose to connect to it. 

I feel so humbled by this love that was already within me. I am grateful for Universal Medicine and its teachings and Esoteric Healing modalities, which in fact did not bring me love, but just reminded me that Love is my true nature.

388 thoughts on “Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places, Only to Find it Was Already Within Me!

  1. And that’s the key, it’s not about something bringing us love, it’s about enabling us to recognise and connect to the love that is in us, that’s what we all crave and many spend lives searching for this without … it’s in us, and it’s about finding a way to live that honours that love.

  2. We grow up learning to search for love outside us but as you have expressed Sharon when we make the choice to simply connect to this love inside us, it opens the door to learning how to love, express and honour the true beauty and quality of our essence.

  3. There is nothing more exquisite than the love found within the inner heart. A love that is always there and regardless of what we do, how far we stray we can reconnect to within a split of a second.

  4. Connecting to the love that is inside us and being committed to develop this connection is a truly loving choice, ‘This commitment has enabled me to develop a much greater presence of love for myself and from this, more love for others. This love continues to deepen and has completely transformed how I live my life and how I am with people.’

  5. Yes.. no healing modality, or anything outside of us, can give us something that we’re not already- certainly not something that lasts. What’s beautiful about the esoteric modalities, or any time we stop and just allow ourselves to be, is that they provide a space to stop and feel what’s going on in our bodies at a deeper level, underneath any reactions and discomfort, to the absolute knowing of who we are.

  6. “I am grateful for Universal Medicine and its teachings and Esoteric Healing modalities, which in fact did not bring me love, but just reminded me that Love is my true nature.” That is true healing – enabling us to re-connect to the love we already are rather than having another ‘fix’ our problems.

  7. It could be considered quite funny if it wasn’t so crazy how much we look outside for love when in truth there is no searching to do at all. It is all within when we choose to connect to it.

  8. I can clearly remember that search for love, or at least the love I though I needed. It was a frustrating and very fruit-less search simply because I too was looking for it ‘in all the wrong places’. It took me until my mid 50’s to find that all the time this love was within me, a love more exquisite than I ever thought possible, a love that is naturally and always mine.

  9. Imagine having the answers to everything, imagine feeling truly content, imagine being rich beyond belief – we’ll we don’t need to win the lottery to experience this but we do need to be willing to feel the absolute devastation, abuse and disregard that we currently live in.

  10. It is crazy how much effort we put into searching for love in all the wrong places when all along it was there inside us patiently waiting to be reconnected to. As we gradually let go of all that is not love in our lives we expand the space for love to come in and fill us up so that we can choose to never feel empty again.

  11. When we discover that the love we were searching for throughout our lives is actually within us, and if we then choose to reconnect with and allow this love to flow unhindered, nothing outside of us will have its way or deceive us ever again.

    1. I agree Elizabeth. Love literally becomes our guiding light rather than all of the other things that so often spur us forwards like need, money, status, competition, being comfortable etc which are actually all simply desperate attempts to replacement the love that we can’t feel.

  12. Reading this reminded me of the simplicity of love. All it requires is me to give myself the space to connect to myself and it’s there. So simple yet there is still a want to stay in the searching and frustration. Still a want to invest in something that I know is a complete lie…

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