Inspiration is a Gift we Choose for Ourselves

by  Rebecca Poole, Health Practitioner, BHsc, Brisbane

When we think of gifts that we might give ourselves we don’t usually think about giving ourselves the gift of Inspiration. I know until recently I hadn’t! For clarification, I am not talking about the bodily function of breathing air into our lungs. I am talking about the Ah hah! moments that can change our lives, and the little tug we get in our heart to tell us there is a more true way to live in our lives. This is what I call the start of inspiration.

Most of us would have experienced feeling inspired by someone and how uplifting this can be, but I had always assumed this had more to do with how inspiring a person was rather than an interaction that I was actively and crucially part of i.e., a gift I could choose to give myself. I am continuously inspired by many, including Mary-Louise Myers and Jenny Ellis, the presenters at last month’s Esoteric Developers Women’s Group in Brisbane. I am inspired by how preciously and delicately Mary-Louise holds herself, and how beautiful she is when she humorously shares how she has lived her life, warts and all. Jenny has such an art for sharing her awareness about life in a way that makes it simple and easy for others to grasp and make their own. During the last women’s presentation I was admiring how light and joyful Jenny felt while talking about her own experiences of menopause. I am forever grateful to these two women, whose reflection of grace, strength and beauty in their 40’s and 50’s allows me to embrace aging (something most women struggle with) joyfully and fearlessly.

So what happens when we feel inspired by someone? Inspired by the way they feel and inspired by how they go about their day/life. First, we feel how we want something that they have, like there is a pull inside us to feel or live our life in a similar way. We can at this point go one of two ways:

  1. Feel the inspiration and the pull that this person is reflecting and embrace it. Know by way of feeling that there is something equally amazing, loving or beautiful inside us waiting for us to express in our own way. However, it is not always that easy! Often after the initial Ah hah! moment we feel an Uh Oh! This Uh Oh feeling is a feeling that tells us we haven’t made the same loving, amazing or beautiful choices that led this person to be and live in the way that has inspired us (even though we could have).By allowing ourselves to feel the Uh Oh feeling without judgment and reflect on our choices, we take full responsibility for where our life is in reflection to the inspiring person and their life. Sometimes this can be excruciating or a very bitter pill to swallow, but it is increasingly easy through deepening the quality of nurturing and love we feel within ourselves in our daily lives, allowing us to be tender and understanding with ourselves as opposed to judging ourselves. Our own built up self-loving and nurturing ways are then like a very warm cuddle on the inside when these uncomfortable Uh Oh moments come about. The Uh Oh reduces and then disappears if we take responsibility for the fact that there have been different or more loving choices we could have made; through this we start to receive the ‘gifts of Inspiration’.When I break it down, this is what I have felt in these moments. Through feeling our Uh Oh we develop an understanding and gentleness towards ourselves and the way we have lived life thus far. During this time there is usually some sadness, allowing us to feel that we are sensitive to hardness – resulting in a greater tenderness towards ourselves and an awareness that the choices we made were not made from love and we are worth more loving choices.

    By realising that we made some unloving decisions and that indeed we are worth more, we take responsibility for where our life is – and the Uh Oh feeling. By owning the fact that we always have a choice (even if it is only the choice of how something will affect the way we feel about ourselves), we are empowered to feel the magnitude, power and importance of each and every one of our choices in our life. From this empowerment comes a strength and clarity (we feel uplifted), the way forward becomes clear and we feel ready to start afresh and make more loving, amazing and beautiful choices for our-selves: in another word, Inspiration.

  2. Feel the inspiration and the pull that another is reflecting but get caught in the Uh Oh’s of our own choices or lack of honouring ourselves. We can judge ourselves, make ourselves feel awful or possibly even try to find fault with the other person to bring them down so we don’t have to feel the Uh Oh while we are in their presence – this is Jealousy. This is quite an ugly feeling inside of ourselves (and for others to feel), and it will cap us and hold us back in our life, unless or until we choose to let go of it.

What I have found is, that wanting to be a good friend/person isn’t enough to ensure we will be inspired by others rather than jealous. Even in the very best of friendships (if people are very honest) there is still a lot of comparison, even jealousy. What if the amount of love we have for ourselves actually determines how much we allow other people to inspire and uplift us? What if it is our own self-love that protects our relationships from the eroding force of Jealousy and ensures we embrace the gifts of inspiration?

A Small NOTE: In my experience self-love is not something you either ‘luck of the draw’, have or haven’t got. It is something that comes about through a dedication, commitment and consistency towards healing the ugliness or judgment inside us that gets in the way of our natural ability to love ourselves, the love that nearly all young children know (what we all so naturally knew).

People commonly say, “As women we are our own worst enemies”. How crazy that we are our own worst enemies and for the most we just accept this as the way we are. We have ALL experienced Jealousy, and therefore there is nothing to hide or be ashamed of. How lovely if we as women can start to openly talk about our own jealousy, exposing it and committing to interact differently with one another. Realise that it is common, nothing to be ashamed of, but a reflection that we haven’t been willing or ready to face some of our own unloving choices. Facing our own unloving choices becomes easier through the warmth and tenderness we can feel from within for ourselves. Warmth and tenderness for ourselves throughout our day is what ensures we can embrace inspiration instead of becoming stuck in the Uh Oh. How Amazing would our life be if we disposed of jealousy and gave ourselves the gifts of inspiration.

160 thoughts on “Inspiration is a Gift we Choose for Ourselves

  1. Choosing inspiration is such an awesome gift for anyone to give to themselves and we have many opportunities to make such a choice when we open our eyes to what others are presenting.

  2. True inspiration can pull us up by reflection to be more of who we are when we are open to exploring our expression from a deeper connection within us and loving ourselves enough to choose to live outwardly what we naturally feel in our essence.

  3. As we have the choice to respond to another’s reflection, so we have the choice to respond to our own learnings and reflections: when we come to the next layer or level of awareness of the choices we’ve made that haven’t had such a great impact on our body, we can either be inspired by that realisation, to love ourselves even more greatly and deeply, or react against it and beat ourselves up.

    Actually making the choice to love and appreciate ourselves helps us to shift us out of the energy we chose in the first place to not do that. Whereas reacting against ourselves only further cements the choice to disconnect from our own essence to begin with.

    1. Appreciation of ourselves supports us to embrace the offer of inspiration when it is presented and then move from this deeper knowing.

  4. With inspiration there is an abundance of appreciation, joy and deep acceptance of our own, and others’ choices. Life feels easy and light and there is space for it to move towards us. If we’re stuck in the heaviness of the regret of our own choices, there can be no moving forwards, until we move ourselves out of it.

  5. Being honest about the Jealousy that we may feel at some point, is a sel-loving choice and the open door to many more to come. It’s when we hide or deny what we feel that those harming feelings can run our life.

  6. This is so true, we always have a choice, ‘By owning the fact that we always have a choice (even if it is only the choice of how something will affect the way we feel about ourselves), we are empowered to feel the magnitude, power and importance of each and every one of our choices in our life.’

  7. When we look up the meaning of inspiration, we are told that it originally comes from the Latin, ‘inspirare – to breathe or blow into’. And this is actually how I feel when I am inspired by another. It is if I am offered the opportunity to stop, to take a big breath and to take in the reflection before me. But of course, I have the choice to take that breath, or not; when I do the gift I am giving myself is priceless.

  8. ‘What if the amount of love we have for ourselves actually determines how much we allow other people to inspire and uplift us?’ Which brings it back to the importance of building a strong foundation of love for ourselves.

  9. It is our choice to receive the pull and inspiration another offers us, to embrace this and ourselves, ‘Warmth and tenderness for ourselves throughout our day is what ensures we can embrace inspiration’.

  10. Inspiration is a gift we choose to receive which bring to the fore aspects of ourselves where we too could express the beauty of the qualities being emanated by another.

  11. Inspiration is such an awesome gift to choose for ourselves as there is always something or someone to be inspired by if we open our eyes and our hearts.

  12. I am so glad I read this again today as I am able to understand so much more of the message now. Its an important part of our growth as human beings to have others around us that are living more love than we are, they are very powerful reflections and unsettle us out of the comfort so we can consider living that way for ourselves also. As you say, such reflections can give us an “awareness that the choices we made were not made from love and we are worth more loving choices.” Two of the key words used were responsibility and empowerment – we can take responsibility for where we are and now choose to be, we are never victims, instead we have immense power to make change particularly when we are loving with ourselves as we make those new steps.

  13. It takes courage and honesty to admitt jealousy but it can be even a funny experience to share with friends, family or colleagues. Something to laugh when we realize how equally amazing we all are from within.

    1. It does seem silly Inma when we are jealous with a mentality of wanting what another has, when we couldn’t be more equal in our amazingness. It’s just a matter of choosing to let it out and live it.

  14. Always our choice: to be inspired by the reflections of others, and to accept and own what and how we feel. Being honest about how and what we feel doesn’t mean wallowing in it, but instead we can express it (even if only to ourselves), know that anything other than feeling absolute steadiness and deep love is just other stuff, layers on top of who we are, and choose to let it go.

  15. What a relief it would be to talk about jealousy openly as women. i mean it is everywhere and it creeps up on me in the craziest situations, and i swallow it but I don’t express it. What if we did this though? What if we were able to just say what we feel when we know we can sense everything anyway.

    1. Expressing how we really feel is very freeing indeed. Such a blessing when we can open an honest conversation with others with no protection or judgment but with a holding energy that allows us to connect deeper with ourselves and to each other.

  16. Thank you for this gift Rebecca. Especially “Facing our own unloving choices becomes easier through the warmth and tenderness we can feel from within for ourselves.” – What I loved while reading this blog was the detail you went into of the first option of saying yes to inspiration, and how the second option is mentioned but not embellished. Something that I know I have done in the past which is counterproductive to building the warmth and love within me.

  17. A sign of comparison and jealousy is a marker that there is more to you. As Rebecca has beautifully provided – warmly hold yourself and feel all that is to feel i.e. continue to feel and not judge or be hard on yourself. If that judgement is aimed at another you have left your holding of you . .

    1. It’s a great line Rik “A sign of comparison and jealousy is a marker that there is more to you.” That is another supportive way to look at it.

  18. Ah hah moment for me is the small note to self, learning to heal the judgement inside of us and allowing that self loving relationship to flourish.

  19. Inspiration is indeed a beautiful gift in how it pulls us from inside to connect to and live the potential of who we are, embracing the fact that we are more and then choosing to live that more through our every movement.

  20. Inspiration is a reflection of the joy lived and learned by another and this just permeates from them. Their reflection is the inspiration and that gently opens up a moment for others to make a choice to learn and explore for themselves what this inspiration means for them too. Inspiration is a movement and a movement we can all enjoy.

  21. It is true that our own level of self-love does determine if we see things as inspiring or as someone being better than us thus to be jealous of. The more tender I am with myself the more I am able to be inspired by others and their self-loving choices. If I am hard on myself the difference can be too much and make me react with jealousy instead of inspiration like I would love to respond with.

  22. I love your description of the Uh Oh and how to work with it. I found too that even if it is uncomfortable to feel it is very healing to do so and to not go into jealousy.

  23. The beauty of inspiration is that it gives us the space to ponder and observe our own lives and how we too can inspire another from our own movements and expression. Everyone of us has a wealth of wisdom and experiences to share and when we share this wisdom with others, the most amazing things can unfold and helps us grow. When we are ready to move from the inspiration on offer.

  24. These are great questions . . . ” What if the amount of love we have for ourselves actually determines how much we allow other people to inspire and uplift us?” . . . and . . . “What if it is our own self-love that protects our relationships from the eroding force of Jealousy and ensures we embrace the gifts of inspiration?” . . . I love them both for they not only point us in the most healing way we could possible consider they also fully inspire us to go for it and really build the love from inside out

  25. Whenever someone offers us a reflection of how they are living we have a choice to be inspired or to go into comparison and I love how your title sums this up so succinctly that being inspired is a gift that we choose for ourselves and that we can go on choosing every time we are with someone who is living from Love and demonstrating how it is always possible to go deeper with this.

  26. Inspiration is a gift well worth choosing, and self-love as you say, ‘is something that comes about through a dedication, commitment and consistency towards healing the ugliness or judgment inside us that gets in the way of our natural ability to love ourselves’.

  27. Inspiration is a by product of our choice to live in a harmonious and loving way and to reflect the joy and love held within. For that is a truly beauty-full bomb of inspiration for all.

  28. “What if the amount of love we have for ourselves actually determines how much we allow other people to inspire and uplift us?” It’s such a great line and a reminder to be gentle with myself, I’m not here to have it all “right”, but to allow myself the space to gently learn and in that be open and appreciative to inspiration.

  29. When we build a steadiness in the way we are in connection with the love we hold within us, we naturally feel the equalness we have with others and with that we can appreciate and be inspired by each other’s unique expression.

  30. I would have to agree Rebecca that “Inspiration is a gift we chose for ourselves”. A beautiful reminder that it is always our choice therefore taking us back to responsibility for the choices we make in our lives.

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